Adult Sex Dating: A Quick Start Guide for Pleasure Seekers

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Now that we’re living in the internet age, it goes without saying that dating isn’t what it used to be. Now that social media networks and online dating sites are the norm, we’re no longer limited to socializing with the people we’re likely to meet at work, at school, or through the sometimes painful world of blind dating. We can simply let our fingers do the walking and easily make contact with everyone from fascinating locals to mysterious strangers from the far corners of the world.

But where does the lay of the land as it exists now leave people that are interested in meeting people to have a little adult fun with? Not everyone is looking to make friendship connections or find their “forever love” after all (at least not right this minute). Is online dating really something that works for the adult crowd looking to find local sex with no strings attached? How private is it? What kinds of people make the choice to explore adult sex dating? How and where can someone interested in the possibilities get started? Let’s take a closer look at the answers to all of these questions and more.

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How to Find a No Strings Attached Fling

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How to Find a No Strings Attached Fling

No strings attached relationships are the type of thing that sounds like a dream come true to millions of people and it’s not hard to see why. You get to tap into everything that’s great about a relationship – the companionship, the fun, and the sex with someone you’re comfortable with – without having to make a serious commitment and tie yourself down.

However, knowing such a relationship sounds like something you’d like to try is one thing. Making sure the experience actually goes the way you want is something else entirely. How can you be sure a no strings attached casual fling is really right for you before you jump right in? How do you maintain the booty call once you find it? Here we’ll discuss the answers to these questions and more.
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How to Find a Fuck Buddy for Easy Casual Sex

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“Friends with benefits” – it’s a term we’ve all heard by now. If you’re like most people, you may even have wondered if it’s right for you and with good reason. While there’s certainly nothing wrong with loving, committed relationships, friends with benefits arrangements bring their own perks to the table. Those that swear by FWB say such relationships come attached to better, hotter sex and much less heartbreak among other things.

However, knowing “friends with benefits” is something you’d like to try for yourself and actually finding a situation that works for you are two different matters. Let’s take a closer look at how you choose the right person, how you get things started, and how you successfully maintain the relationship to everyone’s benefit.

 

How Do Relationships Between Fuck Friends Start?

It’s the question most people that have never been in a FWB relationship before have right off the bat – how do you actually go from just knowing someone to actually being bona fide sex buddies? The fact of the matter is it starts differently for everyone.

In some cases, the buddy in question is just someone you know and like, but don’t have a super close emotional connection to. It could be an old friend from your school days that you reconnected with over Facebook. It could be a hot waiter you flirt with every time you grab a bite at your favorite restaurant, a sexy acquaintance a friend introduced you to, or a random hook-up you really hit it off with.Mixxxer Map on mobile phone

In most cases these days, adventurous people find sex buddies on casual dating sites like Mixxxer.com. Services like Mixxxer are useful because they don’t rely on luck, you don’t have to just happen to know or meet someone who you hope holds a mutual interest in casual sex. And you don’t have to build up the courage to suggest it. On sites like Mixxxer, everyone there is just like you and looking for the same thing. All you need to do is chat with everyone you like and choose who you like best. You could find an easy hookup tonight, as opposed to ‘maybe’ this month or year.
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Politics and Sex – How to Scandalize Your Next Casual Date

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Election season is a time when the blood runs high, people get loud and there’s a whole lot of friction going on. Sound familiar? The truth is that politics and sex are intrinsically linked, as shown by the public’s absolute fascination with sex scandals, particularly in delicate times in the electoral cycle. Why not harness some of that energy (literally, if you’re kinky!) and get a little “head” of state action going on in your own bedroom? Here are some erotic election-inspired ideas that you can use in your very own political positions:

Sexy Role Playing

Make the most of your sex app this election season by encouraging your online dates to get into the role of candidate and campaign staffer with a little roleplay. Use your influence as a charismatic candidate to talk your willing intern right out of his or her clothes and show them why you’re the very best pick to truly satisfy the country’s needs. Bonus points for turning traditional campaign props into sexy accessories – smaller campaign signs make great in-a-pinch spanking paddles!
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VR Porn – A Bang or a Bust

Man watching VR pornPorn drives technology. It’s a simple truth that’s decided tech “winners” from VHS to Blu-Ray, and it continues to shape the devices and software that we use for decidedly more PG applications every day. Each technological leap forward has made our digital approximation of the beast with two backs (or more, depending on your personal proclivities) increasingly realistic.

Right now, we can easily find and buy adult toys – both insertable and penetratable – that use the internet to connect. We have vibrators that rely on text message content or the bass on our favorite songs to bring us to the big O. We have new genres of “POV” porn that adjust the viewing angle to enable us to better fantasize and place ourselves in the story – an XXX version of house staging at its finest. Knowing how far we’ve come – pun not intended – in the last handful of years, can we cross that uncanny, genital-shaped valley even further? After all, it’s been the stuff of science fiction for years: porn that gives you both the visual and physical feedback of a real partner, on demand.
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Top 17 Immensely Funny Sexting Fails

Let’s be honest – we all love sex, and we all love our smartphones. They both involve exciting exploration, thrilling imagery and indulgent gratification, though it’s admittedly easier to play Angry Birds on one over the other. If your phone browser tabs include mobile dating sites or an adult dating app or two, you’ve successfully combined these two tools for personal pleasure – bravo! Unfortunately, not everyone manages to pull that off quite as easily. Though it’s sad for them, it’s pretty damn hilarious for the rest of us – here are 17 of the best sexting fails we’ve spotted:

 

Sexting Fail (1)

Getting down and dirty when your family has grown up is a challenge, but apparently so is keeping your cell phone contacts separate – whoops! Pro-tip: don’t have explicit sexts with your spouse and conversations with your kids at the same time.”

 

Sexting Fail (2)

“Sexy texting is a really hot way to hit up your booty call, but maybe nicknames are in order if your newest erotic partner shares a name with a parent? They’ll think it’s cute and you won’t be mentally scarred for life.”

 

Sexting-Fail (3)

“Okay people. Can we all just agree that the eggplant emoji is the international sign for dick? This train wreck looks like the sender is describing a bout of the flu he’s particularly thrilled about!”
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Sexting – The Excitement of Dirty Texts

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Only a short while ago everyone was walking around with flip phones and the only people sending text messages were the nerdy types. Back then, no one had heard of the term SMS. Sure, there were people hooking up via AOL chat rooms back in the day, but when smartphones became ubiquitous, people began to play in a much more casual way. Sexting is now its own form of seduction for many, thanks to the always on and always turned on approach that singles and spouses on the down low are able to share from just about anywhere.

Just how big has sexting become? The new word of the year added to the Oxford Dictionary in 2015 was an emoji for the first time ever! So many people slid their trembling fingers toward smiley faces and winks last year that these tiny pictorials have now become an influential part of modern language – and that fact doesn’t even begin to scratch the surface of sexting’s popularity. According to Bloomberg, people now send more than 8 Trillion texts each year, and according to a quick survey of some singles on Mixxxer, more than half of those have something to do with hooking up!

The excitement of sexting is simple to demonstrate. Anyone who has ever sent a text to a potential mate, and waited that thirty seconds in suspense for each new reply, as the conversation steadily makes it way from the cellphone to the bedroom is well aware of the way it makes your fingers tingle and your ears feel unexpectedly warm – but there are some less obvious advantages to sexting as well.
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Swingers Spotlight: Finding Sex Online With Plenty of Partners

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Online sex dating for “no strings attached” hookups have become really easy these days, in fact, for many casual singles finding one single booty call has become so easy that their interests are expanding and the Swinger lifestyle is making a comeback thanks to a groundswell of open-minded sexy couples interested in becoming intimate with a wider array of partners. If an occasional date with a single mate is no longer enough to thrill you, read on to find out how you can supercharge your sex life by adding more playmates to the mix via polyamorous online communities like Mixxxer.com

What Does Being A Swinger Really Mean In 2015?

Swingers are ‘normal people’ who have a desire for intimacy that goes beyond anything one partner can satisfy on an everyday basis. Many are already part of a loving committed relationship with a primary partner – but are progressive sexy fun camping with mixxxerenough to understand that their lives would both be greatly enriched by removing the traditional limits often imposed on a marriage or other long-term relationship by societal dogma. Just because your grandparents only had sex with each other during a long and beautiful relationship, that doesn’t mean you and your spouse need to follow their example in every conceivable way to achieve the highest level of romantic bliss.

Often there is a social stigma attached to the Swing lifestyle from ‘squares’ that do not participate in these kinds of activities. For that reason, many couples continue to shy away from an open marriage or consensual affairs due to a fear that it might lead to some kind of ostracism from your own local social circles. We believe that is a terrible outcome simply because it involves sacrificing your own happiness and limiting the happiness of your partner solely to ‘live up to’ the nonsensical expectations of others who are not even involved in your lives during your most intimate moments. Most swingers are involved in a relationship of two or more people already and are seeking new partners to play with, but there are also a significant number of singles interested in striking up some involvement with an already attached couple. Single male swingers are often referred to as Stags and single female swingers are frequently described as ‘Polys’ (for their polyamorous approach to sex). Continue reading…

Pro Tips for Women Dating Online

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There are lots of newbie guides to online dating aimed at helping people who are trying to find hookup sites like craigslist for the very first time. Sure they have useful information in them, but if you are someone who has already succeeded at looking for sex online, those newbie guides won’t be much help for a more experienced online dating enthusiast. That’s why we’ve prepared this guide based on feedback from Mixxxer.com community members. These are the Dating Pro Tips designed to make it easier to go from being the kind of mate that has sex tonight a couple times a month, to the kind of dating diva who can get what you want pretty much any time you want it!

1 – Hey Ladies – You Should Enjoy Your Freedom!Young Couple on Mixxxer

Many women love casual sex as much as any man ever did, that isn’t a secret to the people you hook up with… but it’s understandable that you aren’t about to have that become part of
your public life. As a female, you can get laid any time you want just by going down to a local bar and waiting for free drinks to come around. The reason most desirable women prefer online dating instead is for the privacy and discretion it offers. Working on Wall Street and being a lifestyle submissive is fine, as long as you understand the importance of separating those two sides of your personality right from the start. That’s why it makes so much sense to avoid hooking up with amateur first time newbies who need a whole lot of handholding. Fact is, if it feels like your date hasn’t been fucking around for a while – you’d be better off letting someone else make sure they have their stuff together before you even consider getting on top of them, no matter how delicious they look.
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Sharing Your Polyamorous Dating Lifestyle

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There has been so much discussion lately about ‘marriage equality’ and the proper ‘definition of marriage’ but most of the dialogue deals with the broader themes of LGBT equality rather than a real exploration of what marriage really is or should be in the modern world. The entire construct of marriage may be due for a major overhaul, and millions of Americans are already redefining the way their vows are expressed in their own lives. Polyamory (the concept of an open relationship that allows the couple to be intimate with others) is gaining popularity quickly, but many men and women are still having a hard time finding the right path toward opening up their own relationships. Here are some ideas worth considering:

The Awkward Conversation Is Actually Pretty Easy
Too often, even in a great relationship, people shy away from saying what they really believe in order to spare the emotions of their spouse. In fact that approach may serve to put off an awkward conversation, but it doesn’t make your feelings any less valid and it definitely won’t make your own desires go away. It’s perfectly healthy for you to be in love with someone, to cherish their affection and to also want to engage in physical intimacy with other people as well. For many it’s about more than just looking for sex tonight or the exhilaration from finding hookup sites like craigslist or Mixxxer. It’s more about having a deeper, adventurous and open-minded approach to experiencing life on a grand scale.

Young man whispering something to his attentive friendIf you are in a newer relationship you may have concerns about whether or not your partner will think less of you or be scared away by a discussion of polyamory. If you have been together in a relationship for a long time, it’s normal to be hesitant to bring up the idea of an open relationship because you don’t want to upset the status quo or risk alienating someone you truly love. However, as any marriage expert or advice councilor would tell you, a relationship has to be built on honesty and trust if it is to have any chance of achieving its full potential. Being honest isn’t always easy, and yes it can be awkward at times, but it’s also the only way to breakthrough and become part of the vibrant, loving and exciting relationship you desire.
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Women Are Flocking To New Hookup Apps In The Wake of Ashley Madison

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Women Are Flocking To New Hookup Apps In The Wake of Ashley Madison

Anyone with even the most casual interest in online adult dating has already seen all the news reports about a website called Ashley Madison that recently got itself hacked by thieves seeking to expose their adult dating community to all sorts of privacy problems. Now, the millions of women who had profiles on that site are looking for better options as they seek out men to date on sites that have a much better understanding of the importance of being discreet, and keeping their data secure. So, where are all these sexy dating enthusiasts going? It’s pretty easy to see where and why they are choosing some booty call sites over others.

Why Going Offline Wasn’t The Answer:

“I had my own account on AM for a while, and I was pretty pissed off when I saw what happened to it” said Lauren M. “I seriously thought about closing all my dating accounts, but these days the best guys are all using online dating sites. I mean, if you want a guy with a good career and an active lifestyle, he doesn’t have time to waste sitting around in some bar or loitering around the gym. The best men are the ones who have the least time to find dates, so they use dating sites, and that means women who want to find them need to be on quality dating sites as well. What I decided to do was become much more careful about reading the terms of service and privacy policy statements of the sites I join from now on.”

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