Why You Should Watch Porn with Your Partner (and How to Talk Her into It)

It goes pretty much without saying that porn is awesome when you’re by yourself. But have you ever tried watching it with a partner who’s as into it as you are?

It can be a fantastic turn-on, not to mention a great way to take your sex life together to the next level.

Here’s a closer look at why you should think seriously about giving it a try if you haven’t already. We’ll touch on a few tips to keep in mind for talking about it with your partner and getting her excited about it, too.

The Benefits of Watching Porn Together

A lot of guys love the idea of watching porn with their girlfriends or wives but aren’t sure whether the benefits are worth having a potentially awkward conversation and risking rejection. Here are some of the ways sharing porn together can improve your relationship.

It’s an easy way to get in the mood

Sex is always better when both of you are really turned on, but getting there can be challenging when you’re tired or stressed out.

If you watch porn on your own, though, you already know how quickly it gets you ready to go.

It’s just as effective for that when you’re watching with a partner.

It makes you better communicators

If the idea of talking to your partner about watching porn together makes you uncomfortable, then that’s a sign that the two of you may need to talk about sex more often.

When you’re comfortable talking about sex, it’s easier to ask for what you really want and explore your fantasies together.

It can be sexually empowering

Asking for something you want in bed and then enjoying it together can be really empowering sexually.

It makes the sex better, it boosts your confidence, and it can keep things from getting boring between the sheets, too.

How to Ask Your Partner to Watch Porn with You

Ready to bring up the topic for discussion with your partner? Here are some tips for ensuring it goes as smoothly as possible for both of you.

Understand what you’re looking for

A conversation about trying something new, like VR porn, in the bedroom is exactly that – a conversation. That said, you should be prepared for it to go beyond asking a simple yes or no question and getting an answer.

Consider what you’re hoping to get out of the experience of sharing porn with your partner.

Do you want to do it simply because it sounds fun, or is there something you hope it will add to your relationship?

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Knowing the answers to questions like these can help you discuss things meaningfully.

Start with a general sex conversation

Although you might feel like you want to rip the Band-Aid off and get straight to the point, it’s best not to blindside your partner with a question about porn out of the blue.

If you and your partner are used to discussing sex, it should be easy enough to bring up porn during one of those instances.

But if you’re not, it’s best to start there first. Get used to the topic, and work on getting to a place where conversation flows easily and comfortably.

Then tell your partner there’s something you’ve been thinking about, and take it from there.

Avoid putting your partner on the spot

Although it’s okay to wait for the right time to ask your partner to watch porn with you, choosing a time that feels neutral on both sides is important.

Don’t wait until you’re in bed together, getting ready to get it on, as it could make your partner feel ambushed or pressured.

And whenever you bring up the topic, be prepared to listen to your partner and consider their input. Part of having a conversation is making sure your partner feels heard, so respect what they have to say, as well as any boundaries they might set.

Create a space that feels safe

Sharing porn with a partner can be exciting, but it can feel awkward for both people at first.

Watching porn alone is one thing, but it can be hard not to worry about what the other person thinks of your turn-ons and preferences when you watch together.

So pick a time and space that feels safe to both of you. Learning about how to safely view porn and ensure your privacy is protected.

And decide on a starting point that feels appropriate to both of you. In other words, start with the tame stuff.

There’s plenty of time to travel into kinkier territory later on.

Talking about and trying new things in bed as a couple is a wonderful way to keep sex exciting and a relationship close. But it’s important to approach things from a place that feels comfortable to everyone involved.

Paige Davis

Paige Davis

The girl in the group. Trying to add some much needed estrogen to the Mixxxer fam.

I've been writing guides and lifestyle pieces for more than 6 years now.

I worked both in front and behind the camera in the adult film business. And I hold a masters in psychology.

You'll find there's a lot of psych majors in the adult industry. So careful guys, you may want to get into our pants, but we know how to get into your heads ;)

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