Advice on Foreplay: The Hottest Erogenous Spots on Both Women & Men

Don’t stint on foreplay – or afterplay. Be inventive!

Dr. Ruth Westheimer

When it comes to foreplay, you can never go to slow or spend too much time exploring your partner’s body. Foreplay is important for pleasure, excitement and connection.

For women, some common areas to spend time in during foreplay are often the neck and ears, inner thighs, nipples and clitoris.

Meanwhile, for men, the hot spots are often the nape of the neck, the penis and testicles, the perineum and the anus.

When exploring these areas, be sure to use gentle, light touches to build anticipation. You can use your hands, lips, tongue or even soft, feathery strokes with a light feather or a feather tickler.

Whatever you do, make sure you are gentle and pay attention to your partner’s reactions and feedback.

Most importantly, don’t forget to enjoy yourself! Foreplay is all about pleasure and connection, and it should be a fun and enjoyable experience for both partners.

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Her Sexual Hot Spots

When it comes to a women’s sexual hot spots, there are many erogenous zones. Lips, nipples, neck, inner thighs, clitoris and vagina are all sensitive areas that can lead to pleasure.

Here we’ll cover the hottest ‘spots’ that will make her moan with pleasure.

From the small and oh-so sensitive C-spot, to that magical G-spot, the AFE Zone and even further down to the U-spot, there are a myriad of hot spots that can bring a woman untold amounts of pleasure.

The C-Spot

Let’s start at the top, shall we? The C-Spot. Also known as her clitoris, it’s shape often likened to a penis due to its similar shape.

Located at the top of the vaginal opening where her inner labia join is what is often considered one of the most sexually sensitive parts on a woman’s body.

The G-Spot

Next up is the G-Spot; an area made famous by German Gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg in 1940s.

This small mass of rough tissue roughly a third way up on her front vaginal wall swells when stimulated – and in some women results in a powerful orgasm.

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The AFE Spot

Heading further down you’ll find another sexual hot spot referred to as her Anterior Fornix Erotic Zone (AFE).

This tiny patch of skin lying closer to her cervix than even her G-spot when stroked causes lubrication like no other.

The U-Spot

Finally there is hidden sexual gem known as U-Spot. Located just above her urethral opening and below her clitoris it has been known for centuries for – its ability to give pleasure with just slight stimulation – especially after she has had an orgasm and may be too sensitive for direct touch.

Other Sexual Hot “Spots”

These main sexual hot spots should definitely not be overlooked. But some women may also have very sensitive nipples or breasts or other areas such as their inner thighs or the hollow of their throats that can bring even more delight if touched.

His Sexual Hot Spots

Just like women, men also have many sexual hot spots that can be touched to create pleasure including the base of his shaft, his perineum, the tip of his penis and even the inside of his thighs.

Here’s a list of the hottest and naughtiest sexual spots to send him to the moon and back!

The H-Spot

Ahh, the H-Spot! Any man knows that the head of his penis is quite the pleasure zone.

Don’t forget about that scrumptious ice-cream cone, that rich glaze extending from the peak to the stem. Feel free to tantalize it with a caress or a kiss and watch your lover go wild!

The F-Spot

If he’s looking for an even more intense experience, then exploring his F-Spot is definitely in order.

Often times referred to as the frenulum is located where the crown connects to the stem, stimulating this specific sexual hot spot will certainly send waves of pleasure flooding over him.

The R Area

And let’s not overlook the R Area either – that visible line along the center of his scrotum, also known as the scrotal raphe. It can be oh-so tantalizing when caressed tenderly!

This sexual hot spot is sure to bring pleasure like never before.

The P Zone

The tantalizing P Zone. Let’s talk about pleasure points. Lurking between the epicenter of his scrotum and his anus lies a highly sensitive zone with explosive potential for arousal is the Perineum.

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Filled with nerve endings, this small region can be an incredibly powerful source of pleasure for men – and women who don’t neglect it!

The P-Spot

It’s the male equivalent of the G-spot.  It can be stimulated in 2 different ways – directly via the anus, or by massaging the perineum.

This special spot is bound to trigger intense orgasms when stimulated with a “come hither” motion.

Other Sexual Hot Spots

Every man has specific areas that can drive him wild; such as his shoulders, nape of the neck, perineum, jawline, eyelashes, areola and cheeks.

Bonus Tips

Seduce and tantalize your lover with a perfect combination of fingers and tongue, exploring their most sensitive hot spots. Show your lover you are paying close attention to every reaction they make.

Start by using light pressure and build up gradually, as they give subtle indications that they desire more. Stimulating the erogenous zones during foreplay can prove to be highly pleasurable, leading to incredible climaxes in due course.

For those that need a little more help, consider these 5 tips on how to arouse those pleasure zones to the max:

  1. Lick and Kiss: Start by trailing kisses around the body and then use your tongue to lick the area in circular motion to create a more intense sensation.
  2. Nibble and Nibble: Using your lips, tongue and teeth, nibble around their hot spots to tease them and cause a reaction of pleasure.
  3. Tease: Teasing is an effective way of creating anticipation which can make your partner even more aroused before you touch them on the hot spots again.
  4. Use Your Fingers: Use your fingertips to gently massage the hot spot or use two fingers together in rhythmic circles for a more intense experience.
  5. Talk it Up: Talking through fantasies can help unleash new bodily sensations that make for an incredibly stimulating experience for both partners! Whisper or shout out whatever comes to mind during foreplay; it’ll only add fuel to the fire of ecstasy!


Ruth Thomas

Ruth Thomas

Hi! My name is Ruth! I am a sex therapist and a happily married swinger (for 20 years now).

I have a PhD in human sexuality and a masters in counseling. I've been helping people improve their sex lives for over 25 years.

I am a member of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and the International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM).

I'm here to help people explore their sexuality and find what works for them. Whether it's with one partner or many, in a committed relationship or not, I believe that everyone deserves to experience the joys of a fulfilling sexual life.