It goes without saying that there’s a lot to be said for coming home for the holiday season. You get to touch base with friends you haven’t seen in years and fill up on plenty of excellent home cooking. It hardly hurts that you don’t have to worry about all your usual everyday responsibilities for a while either. Even so, even the best winter break can suddenly seem endless if you’re not also getting laid while you’re away and with good reason.
According to Trojan condoms, there’s about a 60% chance that you’ll have some form of casual sex while you’re home for winter break if you’re also young and single. Combine multiple social sex gatherings where there’ll be alcohol served with good old-fashioned end-of-the-year cheer and you definitely have a recipe for casual sex. Keep the following tips in mind to make sure you get the absolute most out of any experiences you might decide to pursue.
Finding the Right Partner
Some people know exactly where they’d turn if they wanted to get some while they’re visiting Mom and Dad over winter break. Others have no idea where to even start looking. If you’re the latter, try taking a page out of someone else’s book! The following moves work wonders for other young, single people that are home over winter break visiting family. There’s no reason why they can’t work for you too.
Limber up your texting fingers.
If you’re like most people, you already slide into other people’s DMs on a regular basis. The same strategy works like a charm when it comes to getting laid anywhere you already know a lot of people. Around 78% of all people planning to get laid over their out-of-town holiday break plan on initiating things with a simple text or direct message to someone they already know (i.e. an ex or an old flame). There’s no reason why you can’t do the same.
Go to a few house parties.
Your parents and your Aunt Martha probably aren’t the only people that will be throwing a party or two over winter break. The chances are great that some of your old friends will arrange a house party or two as well. Making sure you’re in attendance is an excellent way mingle with other young, sexy singles like yourself and drastically increase your chances of getting laid.
Check out the local nightlife.
If you don’t really know anyone well enough to drop in on their house party or seek them out for a possible booty call, you can always fall back on what works at home. Hit up your local bar or see what’s new on the club circuit in the next city. Over half of all singles into hookup culture say they actually prefer meeting new casual sex partners while they’re out on the town for the evening and there’s no reason why you can’t do the same.
Try hooking up the mobile way.
Speaking of great ways to get laid on the fly, don’t count your favorite hookup apps and mobile interfaces out just because you’re not trolling your usual stomping ground. Options like Tinder leverage the magic of GPS technology to locate other horny, eager singles just like yourself no matter where you might happen to be at the moment. Mobile hookup solutions also save you a lot of time and energy if you’re just not in the mood to chat people up or be social somewhere else. You could be mere minutes from meeting your next hot and horny hookup!
Having a Great Time
So now that you’ve figured out who you’re going to be hooking up with, it’s time to focus on having an awesome time. It’s your winter break, after all! You naturally want to avoid drama, missteps, and sex that just really falls flat. Keep the following in mind and you’re sure to see the old year out (and welcome the new one to come) with some fantastic experiences to remember.
Make sure the person you pick really drives you crazy.
And we mean “crazy” in a good way, just FYI. Great casual sex is all about raw animal attraction, not long-term potential. That said, don’t worry too much about the fact that you and your ex from college could never agree on politics or religion. The fact that the two of you always had great sexual chemistry is really all that matters when you’re temporarily hooking up over a break.
Of course, you yourself have to be capable of enjoying a hookup without letting any history you might have with the other person get in the way. If you can’t, you’re better off getting together with someone totally new. Remember, mobile hookup apps are your friend, especially when you don’t want complicated feelings involved.
Be clear about the nature of your encounter.
At this point, we’re nearly two decades into the 21st century. You no longer need to pretend you’re interested in a long-term relationship in order to get yourself laid, so there’s really no reason not to be 100% honest with your hookup partners. (In fact, honesty really is the best policy if you don’t want your winter break ruined by unnecessary drama.)
You’ll want to make sure you’re being just as honest with yourself. Never use a one-night stand as an excuse to get closer to someone you might have deeper feelings for, especially if you know they’re not interested in you on that level. The point of getting laid over winter break is to make your holiday season merrier, not more complicated.
Embrace the opportunity to pull out all the stops.
The great thing about a hookup is it doesn’t have to have long-term potential in order to be great. That said, you don’t have to be 100% yourself either (unless you feel like it). Even if your hookup is someone you used to know back in the day, keep in mind that they have no idea what you’re like at this particular point in time.
Why not seize the opportunity to sexually reinvent yourself a little bit? Try something you’ve always been curious about, but never actually done. Be extra naughty, kinky, or dirty if the mood strikes you. Spending the whole evening having polite, vanilla sex in the missionary position sort of misses the point of having a one-night fling in the first place, doesn’t it?
Don’t be rude (or put up with anyone else’s rudeness).
The fact that you’re having casual, no-strings-attached sex doesn’t excuse you from being a decent human being. Always be polite and courteous to your date. If you’re going to their place, be a good guest. If your lodging situation allows for bringing them back to your place, be a courteous, attentive host.
You should expect the same from the other person. They should arrive for your meeting on time and they should be responsive when it comes to your attempts to communicate. Yes, you’re enjoying the benefit of getting laid without any strings attached, but so are they. The least they can do is treat you like a human being.
Make sure you’re staying safe.
Yes, it’s the happiest, merriest time of the year. Yes, you should have as much fun as is humanly possible. What you don’t want to do is put the rest of your life at risk for a good time here in the moment, so make sure you’ve got your ducks in a row when it comes to birth control and STI protection.
Don’t simply assume that the other person is going to take care of things either (or that they already have). If you’re open to the idea of hooking up, keep condoms on you at all times so you’re always prepared. You may think your only holiday hookup is going to be your old high school girlfriend next Saturday night only to meet another great candidate at the grocery store tomorrow.
Don’t forget to have fun.
Last but definitely not least, don’t lose sight of the fact that casual sex is supposed to be all about having a good time. After all, what’s not to like about enjoying different experiences with different people while you’re young, hot, and single?
Don’t take the act of choosing a partner – or the sex itself, for that matter – too seriously. Just relax, enjoy the ride, and let things unfold naturally. Don’t forget that it’s winter break either. Spend it laughing, living it up, and making memories you can look back on fondly for the rest of your life.
When it comes right down to it, getting laid over winter break is easier to do than you might think. Just make sure you choose your partner with care and approach the experience from the right angle. Now get out there and make your annual trip home for the winter one to remember!