It probably goes without saying that if you date or sleep with women, you’re absolutely nuts about boobs. But boobs aren’t just fun to look at and maybe play with now and then when you’re making out with someone or getting it on.
Boobs are incredibly sensitive and can bring a lot of pleasure to the table, both for you and your date. In fact, there are even a handful of lucky women out there who can even orgasm from breast stimulation alone.
But it’s important to know what you’re doing before you just dive in there and go for it. Here are some tips for getting boob play right and making it enjoyable for both of you.
Don’t dive straight into nipple play
Although a lot of men might be ready to race right out of the gate when it comes to sex, women really need a chance to warm up to things in order to enjoy sex to the utmost.
A woman’s boobs are a lot like her genitals. She’ll appreciate your attention most if you ease into things a little.
Unless you know your partner very well and already have a solid idea of what she likes and how sensitive her particular set of nipples might be, you want to work up to nipple play. Build anticipation and heighten the mood first by kissing her neck, collarbone, and shoulders while you gently massage or stroke the tops and sides of her breasts.
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Use dirty talk to your advantage
Most people have their little insecurities when it comes to their bodies, and the women you take to bed are no different. Even a great-looking woman might be secretly unhappy with the size, shape, or general look of her breasts for all sorts of reasons.
But a well-timed compliment or even a little dirty talk can really help in that regard.
Remember, the best way for you to enjoy playing with your date’s boobs is to make sure she’s enjoying it, too. Compliment her on her breasts while you’re messing around or getting ready to get horizontal. It’s okay to get a little dirty by complimenting her on how responsive she is to your touch – for example, on how hard her nipples are.
But simply telling her she’s got gorgeous boobs will undoubtedly do the job, too.
Know what does it for a woman
Although no two women will be exactly alike as far as how they like to be touched in bed, breast sensitivity for most is all about the nipple, as well as the areola – the round, dark area immediately around the nipple.
Honking, jiggling, or bouncing a woman’s boobs around may seem like fun play to you, but it’s probably not going to do much for her.
And no matter what you do or try in bed with a set of boobs, it’s always best to start our your play slow and gentle. Gauge how she reacts to that, and turn up the intensity if it seems like that’s what she wants.
And when in doubt? Just ask her what she likes, if something feels good, and if she’d like you to do something you’re already doing a little harder or softer.
Know how to use your mouth (and how not to)
Mouth play is definitely a go for most women regarding their breast and nipples, but it’s essential to be gentle and go slowly. If you’ve been gently touching and caressing your date’s breasts and she’s into it, use your tongue to draw gentle circles around her nipple until it’s hard. Then try gently flicking it with your tongue a few times before putting it into your mouth.
If you’re thinking about getting rougher than this, make sure you proceed with caution. Although some women do like having their nipples bitten, pinched, pulled, or nibbled on, that’s way too much for others.
It’s important to get your partner’s consent – spoken or otherwise – before crossing that line, so always check with your partner first. Ask her if she’d like it harder or whether she’d like you to take things further.
Understand every woman likes different things
We can’t stress enough that no two sets of breasts are going to be alike, just as no two women are alike. Different kinds of breasts and nipples especially may respond differently to certain types of stimulation and play.
So don’t assume that because your last lover was all about something specific you used to do that your next one will be, too. She could actually hate it or far prefer something else.
Ultimately, the best way to approach breast play in bed is to be gentle (until directed to do otherwise), take it slow, and pay attention to your partner’s responses when trying something new. And when in doubt, ask for direction, feedback, or both.
Bonus Tip: Keep It Simple
If your nervous or inexperienced when it comes to playing with a woman’s breasts, keep these 5 simple methods in mind:
Touch
Gently touch or massage her breasts with your hands. You can also try lightly tracing your fingers over her nipples.
Lick
Use your tongue to softly lick her nipples and areolas. You can also try sucking on them gently.
Nibble
Gently bite or nibble on her nipples and areolas with your teeth. Be careful not to bite too hard!
Rub
Use your hands to rub her breasts in a circular motion. You can also try gently squeezing and kneading them.
Flick
Use your tongue or finger to flick her nipples in a quick, light motion.
