Most men want to sext yet don’t know how to. There is more to sexting than sending nudes and sultry messages.
Whether you have sexted once, several times or have not yet tried it, you should know it is the details that shape the experience.
Step up your sexting game and you’ll have that much more success with the ladies. Let’s take a quick look at how to sext the right way.
What is Sexting?
Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs, primarily between mobile phones. It is considered a trend among adolescents and young adults, and is often seen as a way to flirt or engage in sexual activity without face-to-face contact.
Sexting can be considered harmless fun, but it can also have serious consequences. Sexting can sometimes lead to cyberbullying, as well as feelings of embarrassment, shame, and anxiety.
There are a few things to keep in mind if you’re thinking about sexting.
Consider the relationship between you and the person you’re sexting. If you’re in a committed relationship, sexting can be a way to add a little spice to your sex life. But if you’re not in a committed relationship, it can be a way to start one.
It’s important to make sure that both you and the person you’re sexting are on the same page about what you’re doing.
And remember that once you send a photo or message, you can’t take it back. Even if you delete it from your phone, there’s no guarantee that it’s gone forever. So think carefully before you hit send.
Perfecting the Art of Sexting
Sexting can be seen as a way to test the waters when it comes to sexual compatibility with a new partner. It can also be used as a way to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship. couples who engage in sexting report higher levels of satisfaction with their relationship.
Although sexting may seem like a frivolous activity, it can actually be quite beneficial for long-term couples. In addition to keeping things exciting, sexting can also help to build and maintain intimacy.
By sending flirty or naughty messages to your partner, you can help to keep the spark alive in your relationship – even if you’re not able to be with each other in person.
Sexting Starts with Consent
It is incredibly important to make sure that your partner is on the same page as you before sending a sext. Sexting can be a very sensitive topic for some people, and can be seen as a huge violation of personal space if done without consent.
If you are interested in someone and want to start a sexting relationship with them, it is crucial that you have a conversation with them beforehand, or have already a sexual encounter, to make sure that they are comfortable with it. Failing to do so could result in the end of the relationship before it even starts.
Work your way up to sexting by establishing a rapport through an exchange of messages. Take a moment to consider whether the person you want to sext can be trusted in the context of sexting.
Ideally, you will broach the subject of sexting with your targeted flame before actually starting to sext.
Consider the Context
While the timing of a sext is important, the content is what will really make or break the effect it has. A well-crafted sext will be tailored to the recipient, with an understanding of what turns them on.
A sext that is too explicit may come across as crass, while a sext that is too tame may fall flat.
Finding the right balance of naughty and nice is essential for a successful sext.
Of course, sending a sext is only half the battle – you also need to be sure that your phone is secure. We’ve all seen the leaked nude sexting photos of celebrities who didn’t secure their phones properly. Be mindful of what kind of information you include in a sext, as this could be used against you if your phone is hacked or stolen.
Avoid using your full name, address, or other personal information that could identify you. And always remember to keep your face out of any photos you send – you don’t want someone to be able to recognize you if your sexts end up in the wrong hands!
Sext With the Right App
To get the most out of sexting, you need to use the right app. Traditional text messaging apps don’t have the same features as apps like Signal and Snapchat, which are designed specifically for sexting.
These apps have features that delete text messages and images after a set period of time, so you don’t have to worry about them being available if the relationship doesn’t work out.
Snapchat even transmits a notification when the recipient takes a screen capture of the message.
Sexting through Instagram’s vanish mode also provides the same clandestine and self-detonation style features for posterity’s sake.
Mind Your Language
It’s no secret that women communicate differently than men. In general, women use more words than men do, and they are more focused on self-expression. This is because women see communication as a way to connect with others, while men see it as a way to dominate.
This difference in communication styles can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. For example, a man might think that a woman is nagging when she’s simply trying to have a conversation. Or a woman might think that a man is being rude when he’s just being direct.
Understanding these differences can help to prevent misunderstandings. It can also help men and women to learn to communicate with each other more effectively.
If you want to avoid getting blocked when sexting or sending nude selfies, be careful about the words you use.
Some words are more likely to offend than others, so if you’re unsure, it’s best to stick with words that are less likely to cause problems.
For example, using the word “cock” is likely to turn some women off, so it’s best to avoid using that word. Instead, pay attention to the words your partner uses and mirror that language in your own messages. That way, she’ll feel more comfortable and the interaction will go more smoothly.
Be Brief at the Start
No woman wants to read an entire paragraph of sexualized language accompanied by a shirtless pic or a full nude. Sexting should be brief and to the point. Keep it short, gauge her response and proceed accordingly.
Attention spans are shrinking, society is becoming hyper-sexualized and people want to get right to the point rather than flirting through prose. A series of short sexts in response to her replies is that much more likely to convince her to open the sexual gates than a long-winded sext that takes 30 seconds or more to read. You can start out playing coy to get a sense of her interest and boundaries but you should escalate fairly quickly so she understands your true intentions.
If you want to make a lasting impression with your sexts, you need to be different from the other guys she’s been talking to. Most women in their mid-20s have received their fair share of sexts, so if yours are similar to everyone else’s, you’re not going to stand out.
You need to find a way to be unique, to make your sexts stand out from the rest. If you can do that, you’ll maximize your chances of fulfilling your sexual fantasies.
Here’s a list of some of our favorite sexting activities:
- Send her audio clips of you talking dirty: Sexting is a great way to spice up your sex life, and with the use of audio sexting, you can make things even more exciting. Voice notes are a great way to add a new dimension to your sexting, and they can be a lot of fun.
If you opt for an audio note instead of a traditional sext, you may find that your partner gets into the mood much faster. Plus, the sound of your voice can be really sexy.
- Get creative with your words: If you want to stand out from the rest, you need to get creative with your sexting. Think outside the box and come up with some new, naughty phrases that will get her engine revving. Be as dirty as you want, and don’t be afraid to experiment. The dirtier you are, the more likely she is to respond.
- Use emojis to enhance your descriptions: If you’re stuck for words, emojis can be a great way to add some extra spice to your sexts. Use them to describe what you’re doing, or what you’d like to do to her. Be as creative as you can, and have fun with it.
- Challenge her to a game of sexting roulette: This is a great way to add some excitement to your sexting. Get her to send you a list of random words, and then you have to incorporate them into a dirty sentence. It’s a great way to get your creative juices flowing, and it’s sure to get her aroused.
- Send her a sext that includes a dare for her to do something naughty in return: This is a great way to up the ante and make things more exciting. Send her a sext that includes a challenge for her to do something naughty in return.
It could be anything from sending a naughty picture back to you, to doing something dirty in real life. Whatever you decide, make sure it’s something that will get her excited.
- Play a game of “I’ve never” over text: This is a fun game that can quickly turn naughty.
- Ask her to send you a picture of something specific: This is a great way to get her to show you what she’s working with. Be specific with your request, and you’re sure to get a naughty picture in return.
Most women enjoy talking. You can give them the opportunity to do exactly that by asking questions. What matters most is that you keep the sext conversation going by asking open-ended questions. This will help to create a more intimate conversation.
Here’s a list of some of our go-to questions to keep a sexting conversation interesting:
- What are you wearing right now?
- What do you wish you were wearing right now?
- Describe your ideal outfit in the bedroom.
- What are you doing to me right now in your mind?
- What are some things you’ve always wanted to do in bed?
- What’s the dirtiest thing you’ve ever done?
- What’s the dirtiest thing you’ve ever wanted to do?
- What turns you on the most?
- What are you thinking about right now?
- Tell me a secret.
Respond to her answers with comments of your own or ask even more questions and you will stay at the forefront of her mind.