While just about anyone can appreciate the wow factor a good blow job brings to the table, gay men may have the most thorough appreciation for them. Since most of us both give and receive, we definitely know what sets a good one apart.
We often know from personal experience what you shouldn’t do when blowing a guy as well.
That said, if you’ve been itching to learn how to give a better blow job, you’ve come to the right place. The following tips and pointers are just a few of the things you’ll want to keep in mind the next time you treat a date to a little oral action down south.
1. Embrace giving head for the fun experience it is.
Don’t let the word “job” throw you off. Yes, oral sex is a great way to spoil and cater to a guy, but that doesn’t mean it’s supposed to be nothing but work for the giver.
If you’re serious about mastering the fine art of the blow job, understand that great oral sex starts with your mindset.
Get in the mood. Let the idea of sucking your man turn you on. Then embrace the entire experience for the intimate joyride it’s meant to be for both of you. You’ll both enjoy yourselves a whole lot more.
2. Build a little anticipation.
If you’ve ever received a blow job from a guy that simply dropped to his knees and went to town without any build-up at all, you already know that sort of oral just isn’t everything it could be.
Sure, you’ll enjoy it and you’ll eventually cum, but a little anticipation just makes it all that much better.
Work your way up to the actual blow job. Stroke him, touch him, and really make him want it first. He’ll not only cum faster, but harder as well – something every good blow job giver hopes for, right?
3. Understand that lube is your friend.
One of the keys to a really awesome blow job is making sure there’s enough lubrication to smooth the way.
Sure, a good amount of saliva will do the job in a pinch, but it’s really not your best option if you’re serious about becoming a blow job master.
Try using a little water-based lube on his shaft instead. Not only will it last longer and work better, but you’ll be grateful for it if your mouth suddenly decides to go dry. There are even scented, flavored, and warming lubes that can add even more to the experience if both of you are game.
4. Get him nice and comfortable.
Sure, you can just blow him while he’s standing up or sitting in a chair, but you’ll both enjoy the experience a lot more if he’s nice and comfortable the whole time. Encourage him to lie down on his back and relax if you can. This helps optimize blood flow to all his extremities, up to and including his package.
Be sure to make him comfortable mentally and emotionally as well. Treat him to a little sweet talk. If the mood strikes you, you can talk dirty. Tell him how badly you want to taste him and satisfy him.
Definitely make eye contact right before you start sucking him and tell him what a great cock he has.
5. Open up and say “ah”.
If you’ve ever slightly misjudged the actual dimensions of a guy’s cock right before diving into a blow job, you probably remember the experience. It can be awkward for you and less than comfortable for him, especially if your teeth happened to scrape him while you were taking him in.
Definitely err on the side of caution and open wide when it’s time to get started. The bigger the cock, the more important this becomes. Adjusting once he’s in your mouth is a simple enough process, after all.
6. Avoid gagging or choking.
While even the best of us can sometimes wind up choking on an especially huge cock, you really want to avoid this if it’s at all possible to do so.
After all, this isn’t a porn video guys. There are few things less sexy than the sound of someone gagging while they’re in the process of blowing you.
One easy way to do this is by going down on his shaft slowly and gradually, one delicious inch at a time. If you have a ridiculously sensitive gag reflex though, you can invest in some numbing spray made especially for giving oral sex. It can help a lot, not to mention make the art of deep-throating a lot easier to master.
7. Make sure you’re breathing.
When you’re in the middle of a blow job, it’s important to be mindful of how you’re breathing. You won’t want to breathe through your mouth for obvious reasons, but you don’t want to inadvertently hold your breath either.
Breathe through your nose and breathe slowly. Breathe as deeply as you need to as well. Otherwise you risk running out of gas in the middle of the act and neither of you wants that, right?
8. Add some hand action to the mix.
Once you’ve got a decent rhythm going with your mouth and everything’s going along smoothly, it’s time to add a hand. Gently grasp his shaft with one of yours as you continue to suck him. Then you want to get your hand and your mouth working in perfect unison.
Using both your hand and your mouth lets you treat his entire dick to some top-notch stimulation. Your hand’s taking care of his shaft while your mouth stimulates his head. However, it’s also important to understand that practice makes perfect. Consider mastering your hand-mouth coordination on a toy first.
9. Pay attention to his balls.
If there’s one mistake a lot of people make when blowing a guy, it’s neglecting his balls and that’s really a shame. Stimulation aimed at his balls and scrotum can really help heighten the entire experience of oral sex. It can also help him along when it comes to producing plenty of man-juice, so make sure you’re one of the guys that remembers to do it.
Bring his balls into the action by pausing once in a while to give them some attention. What you do is up to you, but be gentle always.
You can try licking his balls, fondling them lovingly, or anything else that comes to mind. It’s worth noting that ball play can also provide a great opportunity for a breather if you find you need one.
10. Hit all his sweet spots.
Another way to make sure your blow jobs are the cream of the crop is to pay attention to his most sensitive sweet spots. One of these is the top surface of the head of his penis. This is the part of the head with the highest number of sensitive nerve endings, so definitely give it a lick with your tongue now and then.
Do the same with the V-shaped indentation on the underside of his head. The nerves here aren’t as densely bundled and sensitive as the ones on the top, but they’re absolutely worth stimulating. A well-timed lick there is definitely a great way to keep stoking his fires. You should occasionally pause to lick his shaft up and down as well.
11. Moan when it feels right.
Moaning is definitely the type of thing that can help your guy along in all the right ways if you do it right. Don’t be fake or robotic about it though. Just let one or two moans out when you feel moved to or feel appropriately lost in the moment.
It’ll definitely get his engine going, as every guy likes to feel like the person blowing him is enjoying the experience just as much. A little dirty talk is also a pretty good idea if you’re both game and it feels right.
12. Prepare for the big finish.
Most guys will let you know when they’re getting close to cumming, but if your instincts are good, you might develop a sixth sense for this on your own. When you know he’s about to blow, gently fondle his balls.
The extra stimulation in just the right spot will make his orgasm that much stronger, much to the enjoyment of both of you.
You’ll also want to decide where you’d like him to finish if the two of you haven’t already worked it out some other way. Be direct and tell him where to cum. (Asking what he wants requires way too much conversation at this point.)
If you want to swallow, reduce the distance he’ll squirt by pushing his cock further back in your throat. This helps prevent the possibility of gagging. If you want a facial, be sure not to get any semen in your eyes.
Finish by stroking him or sucking him gently to make sure you get every last drop. Most guys really appreciate this. Plus, it’s a hot, sexy way to close an already great oral play session on a high note. Try it and see!
