There’s a lot about hooking up that feels easy and effortless, especially in this day and age. You can enjoy everything you love about connecting with another person without signing up for an entire relationship you’re not interested in. Plus, your favorite mobile platforms make finding someone you’re interested in easier than ever.
There’s still a fine art to convincing the person you pick that you’re worth their time though. Since they have as many options to pick from as you do, it helps to know how to stand apart from the rest of the pack. Here are a few tips for kicking your game up a few notches for better quality hookups (and more of them).
Improve Your Profile
If you’re like most people, you spend your fair share of time on hook-up apps simply checking out the possibilities. So does everyone else, so what your profile says about you can easily mean the difference between a yes and a no when you’re trying to close the deal. Start with your photos. Yes, you need to look great in them, but the quality of the photos matters too. Choose crisp, bright shots that clearly show what you look like. (No sunglasses, hats, or odd angles!)
And don’t simply assume no one reads bios on hookup sites. Most people want to at least see that you’ve filled yours out and provided some basic information about yourself. Less is more, so don’t write out your life story. Do fill in all available fields with the appropriate information so prospects know what to expect from you.
Be Appropriately Selective
There are two classic mistakes people make when perusing their options on a hookup app. Some people swipe on every attractive face that comes up. Others are super picky and hang all their hopes on a couple of people. The right balance lies somewhere in the middle. Don’t bother with anyone you don’t feel attracted to, but make sure you’re positive someone won’t be a good time before you count them out.
Don’t be afraid to go after someone who’d normally be considered out of your league either. People match with folks they never thought would be interested all the time, so be your charming self and go for it. The worst they can do is say no, at which point you move on to the next person.
Rethink Your Platform
Haven’t been feeling the experiences you’ve been having on your platform of choice lately? Before you jump to the conclusion that maybe hooking up just isn’t for you anymore, consider whether it might be time to change platforms. The wide, wonderful world of app-based hookups no longer begins and ends with Tinder. There are countless options out there to choose from and a lot of them are geared to a much more specific audience than Tinder. Choosing the right app can mean the difference between satisfying encounters that hit the mark every time and a lot of time wasted vetting people who aren’t even looking for the same thing you are.
If you’re solely interested in no-strings-attached sex and naughty chat, try a platform like Mixxxer on for size. Unlike on Tinder, you won’t run into Mixxxer members who are there looking for a serious relationship. Mixxxer is exclusively for people looking for casual, sexy fun with passionate people who want the same. No drama, no games, and zero wasted time.
Mind Your Manners
So many casual sex lovers make the mistake of thinking that it doesn’t matter how they treat the people they hook up with. After all, they’re not looking for a relationship. They don’t even plan on seeing the person again, so they just don’t think it matters. True hookup masters who leave their dates truly weak in the knees know otherwise.
First of all, politeness is important and so is consent. Be respectful of your date’s feelings and any boundaries they might set with you. Be willing to make polite conversation and break the ice a little before you get down to business. A nice, easy bond and some flirty chat almost always add up to better, hotter sex. Plus, it’s just plain good manners.
Cultivating a killer hookup game means being a polite guest and a good host. Even if you don’t ever wind up seeing the person again, people talk more than you think and word gets around. No one wants a reputation for being a rude lay or – worse – someone who doesn’t take consent seriously.
At the end of the day, hooking up on a casual basis is a lot like any other type of dating. A huge part of success is about looking in the right places and knowing how to behave once you run into someone worth taking a shot at.