Talking someone into coming home with you and getting horizontal is relatively easy once you know what you’re doing. Seducing someone, on the other hand, is an art you have to perfect, but it’s also one that’s well worth your while.
Knowing how to seduce someone is about more than just getting people into bed a lot more easily. It’s about making the person yearn for you and keep on thinking about you long after even casual, low-key encounters are over. Here are a few go-to tips for seducing to get you started.
1. Cultivate confidence.
Some things boil down to a matter of personal preference when it comes to what’s sexy while other things are pretty much universal. Confidence is one of the few character traits that nearly everyone finds mind-blowingly attractive, so you must get in touch with yours.
Don’t worry. You don’t have to be a seduction expert to come across as confident. People can smell a fake a mile away though, so just be yourself. Go back to what others are constantly complimenting you on and figure out how to make those traits work for you.
2. Make eye contact.
Eye contact can be positively mesmerizing, so it’s an absolute must if you’re looking to become a seduction expert. It also speaks volumes when it comes to letting someone know you want them, especially from across a crowded room.
The key to success is to add just enough eye contact to your interactions with the person. Don’t stare intensely at them. Simply catch their eyes and hold them for a moment. Smile to let them know you like what you see. Then look away for a moment before making eye contact again.
3. Touch them just enough.
Being seductive isn’t about hanging all over someone you want or brazenly throwing yourself at them. Touch can be an incredibly powerful seduction tool, but only when you do it sparingly and selectively.
Go for touches that are subtle and could even be viewed as unintentional. Brush against them just a little when you walk by them or graze their arm slightly if you’re standing together and talking. The key is to get them to notice that your bodies have made contact, but not in an obvious, overbearing way.
4. Let them chase you.
Regardless of what some might say, no one yearns for someone easy to catch. Whether the target of your attention realizes it or not, being made to work a bit first will make having you that much sweeter when the time comes.
As with touch or eye contact, the trick is not to overdo anything. Don’t play with their head or outright pretend you don’t like them. Just be a little mysterious. Give them just enough attention to keep them wanting more and make them meet you halfway.
5. Use body language.
Let your body do most of the talking when you’re set on seducing someone. Body language can be extremely convincing, especially on a subconscious level. It’s an especially good thing to fall back on if you’re shyer or less comfortable leading a conversation verbally.
Show the person they have your attention by facing your body toward them when they’re speaking. Cross your legs in their direction. Lean into them slightly and subtly. These gestures may not seem like much, but they send a very clear message regardless.
6. Look at their lips periodically.
Even though a person’s lips aren’t officially sex organs, they remain a very sexual part of the body regardless. When you want someone, you want their mouth on you and you want to put your mouth on them in return.
That’s why looking at someone’s mouth when they’re talking makes such a powerful statement. It lets them know you’ve got something on your mind that goes well beyond a simple conversation. Again, don’t overdo it. Outright staring at someone’s mouth might make them worry they have food in their teeth or something similar.
7. Flirt over text.
These days, text and instant messages are huge parts of how we communicate with one another, so it pays to know how to use these media to be seductive. Just think of all the time you’ve spent trying to decipher a mildly flirtatious text from someone you were kind of into. That’s the effect you’re after.
That said, do be flirty when you text. Master the art of using emoji to playfully get your point across. Just don’t make it so suggestive it’s obvious what you’re doing. Again, you want to strike a good balance between flirty and hard-to-get.
Don’t worry if it takes you a little while to get the hang of being a master (or mistress) of seduction. Even the sexiest person you know had to start somewhere. Just be yourself and practice, practice, practice. Eventually, you’ll hit on a method that works flawlessly for you.