Between the internet and the ubiquity of smartphones, it’s hardly surprising that taking and sending nudes is simply no big deal anymore. Nearly everyone enjoys snapping a few sexy or silly shots when they’re alone just to see what they look like. If they like what they see, it makes perfect sense to show them off to the right person, so you’re definitely not alone in finding nudes intriguing.
That said, it’s a lot easier than you think it is to talk a five-alarm hottie you’re chatting up into sending you a few choice pics of her own. You just need to know how to go about it. Here’s a closer look on what to do and what not to do for best results.
Asking for Nudes Is a No-No
If you feel like you don’t have the magic touch when it comes to getting women to send you nudes, it’s worth thinking about why that might be. It’s not that women don’t like to take and send sexy pictures of themselves, because the great majority of them do. However, it’s not the kind of thing you can pressure someone into doing.
That said, actually asking for a nude from someone who’s never sent you one before isn’t going to get you very far with most women. You risk coming across as desperate, overly thirsty, or just plain pathetic. It needs to be her call and her decision, so it’s time to start thinking of nudes as a gift you’re given, not a favor you ask someone for.
“Going First” Is a No-No as Well
While there are women out there that don’t mind the occasional dick pic, it’s important to understand that they’re actually in the minority. You’re certainly not going to inspire a woman who barely knows you and just isn’t feeling it to send you nudes by doing it first in the hopes that she’ll get the hint.
In fact, it’s best not to jump straight into sending pics at all, especially if you don’t know each other. Instead, just talk to her, make an honest attempt to get to know her, and see what develops. When a woman likes a man, she’ll have no problem flirting with him. From there you can flirt back and see where things go next. There’s no way to force a woman who isn’t even interested in you to become wildly attracted to you by sheer force of will though, so don’t even try.
Master the Fine Art of Dirty Talk
When and if you ever reach the point where the two of you are talking often and actively flirting back and forth, you can see how she feels about a little dirty talk. Dirty talk can easily transition into full-on sexting, and it’s not uncommon for that to involve nudes at some point. Again, don’t force anything. Introduce it slowly. Flirt with her. Ask her sexy questions and see how she answers. If it interests her and she wants to go there with you, she’ll roll with it.
It also helps to leverage what you know about the person’s likes and dislikes. This can keep the conversation moving in a direction you like and will definitely increase your chances of maybe getting some sweet nudes at some point. Establishing trust and making sure the other person feels comfortable with you is also a must. After all, it takes trust to open up to someone about your sexual fantasies or actually hit the “send” button on a nude.
Make Her Feel Desired
Resist the urge to nag or beg for a nude. You’re not going to wear a woman down, so this isn’t the type of thing she’s going to do just to shut you up, especially if she’s already made up her mind not to do it. You’ll have much better luck making her feel beautiful, sexy, desired, and appreciated. Do you genuinely think she’s those things? Tell her so in an honest, believable way. People can smell a fake a mile away, so make sure you’re truly being sincere.
Eventually she’ll come to see herself the way you see her and that could well mean she gifts you a nude (and is happy to do so). If she does do that, be grateful and express appreciation for what she did and how she looks in the photos she sent. Don’t be vulgar or rude, especially if commenting on her body or appearance. If you make her uncomfortable, she’ll regret her decision and avoid ever doing the same thing again.
At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that someone’s being pretty vulnerable when they send someone else nudes. Establishing the right kind of connection is important, as is showing respect and appreciation.