Online Dating for Men 101: How to Stand Out in All the Right Ways

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If you’re a man who’s into online dating, the sheer number of possibilities out there these days can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, there are hundreds of hot, available women out there to choose from. On the other, there are just as many single guys out there looking for the same thing you are. A lot of those guys will be better looking, smarter, or more interesting than you are, so standing out can be a real challenge. Here we’ll go over everything you need to know to get the women you want to not only take a second look at you, but be interested enough to take the next step.

Getting Started in the Right Direction

Before you can get what you want from your online dating scene of choice, you need to truly understand what you’re looking for. If you’re really only interested inCasual sex couple casual relationships or no-strings-attached sex, don’t waste your time on interfaces that are aimed at people looking for something serious (and vice versa).

You’ll also want to set your profile up in a way that makes it crystal clear what you’re doing there. Try to put yourself in the shoes of your ideal woman. What would she likely see as a turn-on or a turn-off in a potential date? Build your profile accordingly.

To Share or Not to Share

You definitely want to make sure your profile accurately represents who you are and what you’re into, but you don’t want to overshare. Even a very interested person’s attention span is going to have its limits. No one is going to read patiently through a novel-length list of interests or a bio section that’s basically a massive wall of text.

Plus, you want to leave a little something to the imagination. Ideally, you want to let a woman know the gist of what you’re about, what you’re like, and what you’re looking for. However, you also want to leave her wanting more. A curious woman is a woman who says “yes” to a date so that she can find out more about the guy in question.

Making Your Photos Count

You already know that pictures matter when it comes to getting noticed on a dating site or a hookup app. However, you also need to know that the photos you think paint you in the best possible light aren’t necessarily also going to be photos women are interested in. In other words, you might want to rethink those fishing pics or all those shots of you posing in front of your car wearing shades.

Man looking in mirrorWomen like photos that clearly show a guy’s face, preferably while smiling and staring directly at the camera. Photos that spark conversation or pique curiosity are also good choices. If you’re using an interface that’s all about hooking up and casual encounters, you can show off some of your other goods as well, but it’s definitely possible to go too far on that front as well. Remember, leave a little something to the imagination. Give her a reason to want to interact with you.

Be Personable

Of course, catching and holding a woman’s attention long enough to get her curious is only half the battle. You’ve got to know what to do next. Originality is a good place to start for sure. Don’t use canned pick-up lines or generic messages to open a conversation. You need to show her you see her as an actual individual, as opposed to just another girl to shoot a message to. (Referring back to something unique you saw on her profile is always a good idea.)

You definitely also want to be straight with her. If she asks you a question, be polite, but definitely give her a genuine answer instead of the one you think she wants to hear. Ask her questions about herself as well. Don’t pretend to be into her if you’re not. You’re both adults. If you’re not interested, just politely say so.

Pay Attention to Boundaries 

Even the most forward women don’t like it when men balk at boundaries and try to push for more than what’s being offered, so always be respectful. Keep in mind that every woman’s different. Even on a hookup app, some women are going to be down to get dirty right away, while others will want to ease into things first.

You will want to keep the end goal in mind though – offline, in-person interaction of whatever type you’re interested in. Take some time to chat a little bit first, but don’t wait too long to ask her out or suggest meeting up. Standing out online is only enough to get your foot in the door. It’s still ultimately up to you to close the deal.

The Morning After: The Right Texts to Send Your Hookup Under Every Circumstance

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So it happened. You hooked up with someone last night. Maybe it was good and maybe it wasn’t, but it was pretty well understood that it was supposed to be a one-night kind of deal. Now what? If you exchanged cell numbers, you might feel like you ought to reach out the next day for the sake of politeness if nothing else, but what do you say?

These days, the communication mode of choice is typically text and with good reason. Texts are low-pressure. They don’t demand the person’s immediate attention the way a phone call does. They’re cool, they’re comfortable, and they’re appropriately casual, so it’s definitely OK  to send one to someone you hooked up with. What you say in the text depends on what you want from that person next, if anything. Continue reading…

10 Tips for Playing Up Your Own Unique Brand of Sexiness

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Knowing you want to be seen as sexy, attractive, and desirable is easy. It’s figuring out how to actually do it that’s hard. After all, no two people are going to find the exact same qualities and features sexy. Plus, we all have at least one friend or acquaintance that gets plenty of sexual attention despite not being conventionally attractive, right?

At the end of the day, the key to being seen as a sexy, desirable person isn’t necessarily about what you have. It’s more about what you do with it. Here we’ll go over how tapping into your own one-of-a-kind brand of sex appeal is the best way to land more dates and get laid a lot more often. We’ll touch on a few suggestions for becoming the best, most desirable version of yourself as well.

  1. Pinpoint your unique assets.

The qualities you think you like most about yourself may not actually be the same ones that draw others to you, so you’ll want to start by figuring out the difference. A good way to do this is to reflect on the people you’ve dated or slept with in the past, especially in regards to the compliments they’ve paid you. Continue reading…

Your Guide to Better No-Strings Attached Sex: Where to Get It, Who to Do It With, and How to Make Sure It’s Hot

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If you’ve been having casual sex for a while but also wishing your average encounter was better, easier, or hotter, you’re hardly alone. Plenty of people decide to go the no-strings-attached route because they love the idea of easy, drama-free sex only to wind up frustrated when things don’t go as expected or desired. If that sounds familiar, then it could be time to redefine how you think of no-strings-attached sex in the first place.

Far too many people assume that casual sex by definition doesn’t require any care, planning, or forethought. In actuality, those things are pretty necessary if you’re serious about making no-strings-attached as awesome and hassle-free as it sounds on paper. The following are just a few tips to keep in mind. Continue reading…

7 Expert Chat Tips for Holding Any Woman’s Attention

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Whether you’re merely looking for some kinky fun or are ultimately open to something much more serious, a great profile will only get your foot in the door with attractive women you meet online. To keep a potential hook-up’s interest once you’ve got it, you need to know how to chat her up like an absolute pro. After all, she needs a good reason to give you her limited time and attention instead of one of the hundred other guys that would also like to have it.

Even so, knowing you’d like to master the fine art of sexy, scintillating chat that sets you apart in all the right ways (and possibly even gets you laid) is one thing. Actually doing that successfully is another. Keep the following tips in mind the next time you’re after an online hottie’s attention for your best possible chance at sweet success. Continue reading…

10 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Opening Up Your Relationship

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Even here in 2018, it goes without saying that open relationships aren’t right for everyone. However, it’s nearly impossible to ignore the kudos they get from those that have found a way to make things work for them. Open relationships can be scary if you’re new to the game, but with a little understanding and finesse, there’s really no reason why you can’t strike the right balance.

But how do you know whether going the open route is really the correct option for you and your partner? Even more importantly, how can you be properly prepared for the challenges and obstacles pretty much every couple faces while making the transition from closed to open? Sitting down with your partner and asking yourselves the following questions during the decision making process can help.

  1. “Why are we really considering this?”

For most people, the subject of opening up a relationship that is currently closed and monogamous doesn’t just come up at random and chances are that’s the case for you too. Start by figuring out why you feel the need to consider this in the first place. Then determine why you’re considering this now.

Are you in a sexual rut and looking to spice things up? Maybe your current partner has been your only partner for a long time and you want a chance to experience what else is out there these days. Yes, opening up a relationship can help breathe new life into things if your sex life has gotten stale, but so can other solutions such as role playing or kink. Continue reading…

10 Tips for Making Your Open Marriage Work

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Whether you’re already in an open marriage or simply thinking it might be a good fit for you at some point in the future, it’s not hard to understand why you’d be interested in one. It’s a common misconception that non-monogamous people don’t care about or crave the commitment and security marriage can bring to a person’s life. Many of them do and an open marriage represents the best of both worlds – lifelong love and commitment that still allows them the sexual freedom they need in order to be happy and fulfilled.

However, knowing an open marriage is the right fit for you is one thing. Making sure yours is healthy, happy, and mutually satisfying is another. Open marriages require just as much work, compromise, and communication as traditional closed marriages do – maybe even more in some areas. The following are a few strategies for making sure yours is as strong as can be.

  1. Make sure it’s right for both of you.

Open marriages only work when both people are equally interested in being in one. They don’t work in situations where one person is pushing for it while the other is simply going along to get along. They run into trouble when both parties are technically interested, but one is a lot more enthusiastic about it than the other as well.

It’s all too easy for the person that’s less interested to become conflicted or feel resentful, especially over time. If that’s the case for your spouse, don’t push or pressure in the hopes that they’ll eventually see things your way. Compromise by looking into alternative ways to spice up your sex life instead. Continue reading…

9 Signs Monogamy Might Not Be Right for You

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There are certain ideas pretty much everyone grows up believing in when it comes to romantic relationships. Everything from the movies we watch, to the music we listen to, to the values our parents work hard to instill in us idealizes two people “together forever” as the best and only choice… but what if that doesn’t work for everyone? More importantly, what if it doesn’t work for you?

Despite what polite society would still have us all believe, monogamy isn’t right for everyone and that’s perfectly OK. Alternative choices like polyamory, open relationships, and casual sex-focused lifestyles are becoming increasingly common as more and more people figure this out. Here we’ll go over a few telltale signs that one of those choices might actually be  a much better fit for you than monogamy. Do any of the following statements sound familiar? Continue reading…

How to Successfully Open Up Your Relationship

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If you’re in a traditional monogamous relationship, it’s not difficult to understand why you might want to try opening things up. Open relationships can be wonderful, healthy ways to experience the variety you crave when it comes to sex without saying good-bye to the companionship and depth you enjoy in your primary relationship. Neither of you ever has to feel like you’re missing out either, which can actually make your relationship stronger in many ways.

However, deciding an open relationship could be amazing for both you and your partner is one thing. Successfully convincing your partner to give it a chance is another. Some people are a lot more open to the idea than others. Here we’ll go over a few tips for bringing up the topic, as well as touch on some ways to help a reluctant partner warm up to the idea. Continue reading…

The Ultimate Guide to Having Great Casual Sex

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It goes without saying that there’s a lot to be said for coming home for the holiday season. You get to touch base with friends you haven’t seen in years and fill up on plenty of excellent home cooking. It hardly hurts that you don’t have to worry about all your usual everyday responsibilities for a while either. Even so, even the best winter break can suddenly seem endless if you’re not also getting laid while you’re away and with good reason.

According to Trojan condoms, there’s about a 60% chance that you’ll have some form of casual sex while you’re home for winter break if you’re also young and single. Combine multiple social sex gatherings where there’ll be alcohol served with good old-fashioned end-of-the-year cheer and you definitely have a recipe for such things. Keep the following tips in mind to make sure you get the absolute most out of any experiences you might decide to pursue. Continue reading…