You now possess 4 rules to follow when conquering your fear of approaching women. However, the next stage is being aware of how to communicate; specifically, what are the best ways to introduce yourself and initiate a conversation?
- When initiating conversation, it is best to be direct and assertive.
- When out and about in natural social settings, use situational conversation starters.
- Catch them off guard and leave an impression. All women like chipmunks!
- Keep your dialogue simple and uncomplicated.
The way to start a dialogue depends on multiple elements, including the context and the individuals involved. It is important to consider these elements in order to have a successful discussion.
–The atmosphere: How one initiates a conversation during the daytime might not be the same as when doing so in an evening entertainment venue.
–Your objectives: Your objectives may vary depending on the situation. Maybe you aren’t especially intrigued by this particular girl and wish to simply foster a sense of social connection. Alternatively, it could be that your intuition drew you to her due to some physical or personal quality she possesses.
–You target woman: If you see a girl who’s pressed for time, it is best to keep the conversation short and move things along swiftly. If she’s lingering in public for some reason or another, there are countless possible conversations that can help fill the time.
In any scenario, this chapter provides guidance on how to begin a dialogue with the female in question and ensure successful progress. By following these instructions, one can be sure to initiate conversation in a productive manner.
When in a natural social setting, such as a sport event, gathering or when meeting new people, it is acceptable to be more relaxed when initiating conversations. That being said, we’ll review that later.
Let’s discuss five effective techniques to open dialogue with any female.
Let’s jump right in…
1. Embrace the Direct Approach
At the outset of the conversation, expressing your interest is preferable. This technique ranks among my favored ones as it eliminates the need for unnecessary discourse. When should it be utilized: At any point in time.
You start by saying:
“Good day! I apologize for the unexpectedness of this, however when you walked by, I was quite astonished by your beauty. My name is [Your Name], and it would be my privilege to become acquainted with you.”
It is imperative that you articulate this slowly, offering the person a handshake after doing so.
Delivering your words slowly gives you a much more confident air, thus piquing her interest in what you have to say. Showing her that physical contact is ok from the outset can make her feel at ease with being around you, so don’t forget to give her a handshake when meeting!
Demonstrating conviction through a direct approach is immensely powerful; should she persist, it implies that there’s likely some level of interest from her end.
2. Take Your Situation Into Consideration
Here, you use your surroundings as a springboard for conversation.
It is advisable to employ this one if you’re at a nightclub, lounging around a public place, or sightseeing.
So, let’s say you and your friend are standing there watching a street performer that can play music on a set of buckets.
You could jokingly comment, “You know, I was actually once a street performer too. I was a mime.” That should get the chat going!
If you’re in a nightclub or tavern, you could initiate conversations by asking, “Hey, what’s the name of this spot?”
The key lies in conveying it with a smirk, so she gets that you’re just having some fun. Wanting it to be more spirited than serious.
Situational conversation starters are great because they give you an easy topic. Plus, it can be a fun way to get her smiling from the start. Just don’t stay on one thing for too long; things can get dull quick if you talk on and on about a street performer forever.
3. The “Where’s the Coffee Shop?” Approach
You find yourself strolling along, when you come across a young woman and question her on the whereabouts of the closest Starbucks.
When to take advantage: While out and about in an urban area with a Starbucks (or, if that’s not available, any well-known coffee shop or eatery will do) during the daytime.
Behold the secret to nailing this…
First, find the girl with whom you’d like to chat up. Generally, she’d be traversing your route along the sidewalk.
Once you approach her, casually lift your hand up to grab her attention. Typically, she will spot your arm outstretched and lock eyes before coming over.
Then, plant yourself and stand still facing her.
Ask, “Hey, any idea where the closest Starbucks is around here?”
Before she has a chance to answer, interject in a laid-back manner, “To tell you the truth, I noticed you and thought I’d introduce myself. Greetings, my name is [Your name].”
(Act on this prior to her completion of speaking, as individuals usually move along following the recitation of instructions.
This opening line is really useful, as it gives you the opportunity to determine her aura and how attractive she is before you let on that you’re interested. Judging from her reaction, you can gain an impression of whether she might be keen to chat. If she grins and brightens up a bit, then chances are good that something could come out of it.
Plus, if the attraction isn’t quite what you thought from afar, just ask for Starbucks directions and move on – no biggie.
4. An Uncomplicated Start
No need to overthink it, just say something simple like “Hey there, what’s up?” or “Hi there, my name is [Your name], how are you doing?”
Best time to use: In establishments such as lounges and nightclubs.
For the best result, convey this with a confident demeanor, piercing gaze and a tranquil voice. Else, she could categorize you as potential friend rather than a mate and dismiss you right away.
It’s so easy and straightforward that it gives you the confidence to initiate conversations. No need to concern yourself with finding words, because you’ve got this easy chat starter all figured out.
5. The Chipmunk vs the Ferret
Let me take a guess, supposing you might not be familiar with this one…
Ordinarily, I take little pleasure in unneeded questions or cyclical discussions based on individual opinions. When my buddy landed this one on me, I cracked up.
Then, I noticed him using it constantly – and the ladies would smile (he’d usually take them back home with him).
I tried it out too and the outcomes were pretty awesome. I landed several women in bed off this little trick.
When to use it: Anytime, but it really shines in dimly-lit bar scenes and other chill spots.
This is how you do it…
You head over to some ladies and proclaim, “Hey, we’re talking about something interesting right now and thought you might wanna join in.”
If they’re down for it, you could ask, “What do ya think about me getting a pet that isn’t like normal ones? I’m debating between a chipmunk or a ferret. Thoughts?”
I’ve noticed that chicks usually have a strange fondness for either of these animals—and they really get interested when asked about it.
It makes for a unforgettable introduction to get the conversation going and involve everyone. Plus, it works super well when talking with multiple women at once!