If a man’s a good kisser, he’s a great F-
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There’s nothing quite like a good make-out session. The passionate kissing, the playful exploration, the buildup of anticipation… it’s all electric.
But as anyone who’s ever been on the receiving end of a less-than-stellar make-out knows, it can also be a major let down.
Kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone, and it’s a true test of compatibility. But unlike other physical aspects of relationships, we don’t exactly get educated on how to make it good.
So much of the focus is on sex, but the lead up to it is integral to the whole experience. In fact, the make-out is just as important as the sex, and you’ll want to be sure you’re prepared before you get to it.
We thought the best way to educate our readers on how to be a good kisser was to first discuss the worst ways to kiss a girl and how to avoid them at all costs.
1. The Wet & Sloppy
Too much saliva can be a turnoff, so be mindful when kissing a girl.
There are a few things you can do to avoid this. First, try to swallow from time to time. This will help keep the saliva from building up too much. You can also breathe through your nose to help keep things from getting too sloppy.
Of course, everyone produces different amounts of saliva, so you may need to experiment a bit to find the right balance. But if you’re mindful of it, you can avoid that awkward moment when things get too wet.
2. The Deep Throat
Though you may be tempted to go all-out with your tongue during an intense kissing session, it’s important to exercise control.
Your tongue should be used for soft, sensual explorations of your partner’s lips, tongue, and front teeth – not for trying to unclog the sink.
Engaging your partner’s gag reflex is not romantic, so keep the tongue action under control.
If you need to figure out whether you’re going to deep, pay attention to their body language. If they start to pull away or look uncomfortable, ease up on the tongue action.
To fix the problem, try focusing on softer, slower movements with your tongue. Or, try using your tongue to stimulate other parts of your partner’s mouth, like their lips or teeth.
3. The Bobble Head
Kissing a girl is an art form, and like all art forms, it takes practice to perfect. If you want to be known as a great lover, you need to start with the basics. Head bobbing is a big no-no.
Keep your head steady and avoid too much head weaving. You should also move your lips around to avoid mouth mashing and to give your kisses variety, but do it slowly and gently. Don’t be a bobblehead!
4. Lockjaw
If you want to avoid having your partner use the jaws of life on you, it’s important to relax your jaw and keep your lips and tongue loose. Try light, flickering kisses that gradually increase in intensity and passion.
Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. You’re getting hot and heavy with your partner, things are really starting to heat up… and then you feel it. A cramp in your jaw.
That telltale sign that your jaw is starting to tense up, your lips are getting dry, and your tongue feels like it’s made of lead. Yep, you’re getting ready to have a major case of lockjaw.
There are ways to prevent this from happening or at least to lessen the severity. Here are a few tips:
- Try to keep your jaw relaxed. This can be tough when things are really getting going, but it’s essential to try. Focus on keeping your mouth slightly open and your tongue loose.
- Take breaks during kissing to wet your lips. This will help prevent them from getting too dry and sticky, which can contribute to lockjaw.
- Try light, flickering kisses instead of going straight for the deep, passionate ones. Gradually increase the intensity as things progress. This can help your jaw and facial muscles warm up and prevent them from getting too tense.
5. The Boring Kisser
We’ve all heard the saying that too much of anything is a bad thing. Well, that definitely includes kissing!
One long, boring kiss does not make you a great kisser. In fact, it makes you quite the opposite. So mix it up next time you’re kissing someone.
Short kisses, long kisses, different kinds of kisses. Keep them guessing and you’ll be sure to make a lasting impression.
There are all sorts of different kisses you can try, so have some fun with it! Here are a few examples:
- The Eskimo Kiss: Rub your noses back and forth together
- The French Kiss: The classic – close-mouthed kissing with a bit of tongue action
- The Butterfly Kiss: Lightly flutter your eyelashes against your partner’s
- The Single Lip Kiss: Gently suck or bite on your partner’s bottom lip
- The Earlobe Kiss: Gently nibble and lick your partner’s earlobes
Have fun exploring and trying new things with your kissing partner!
6. The Wandering Eye
We’ve all heard the saying that “eye contact is key.” But what does that really mean when it comes to kissing?
Simply put, making eye contact while kissing a girl is important for a few reasons. First, it shows that you’re interested and invested in the kiss. This can make the kiss more enjoyable for both of you. Second, maintaining eye contact can be intimate, and help to create a more meaningful connection.
Of course, it’s also important to blink periodically while making eye contact, as staring endlessly into your partner’s eyes can be a bit creepy!
So next time you’re planning a smooch, remember to focus on your partner and give them the gift of your undivided attention. It’ll make the kiss that much more special.
7. The Face Licker
When it comes to kissing, avoid licking a girl’s face unless you want to be treated like a pet. Instead, focus on kissing her eyes, cheeks, and temples.
When it’s time to move south, you can unleash your inner beast and go to town!
8. The Biter
Do you like to use your teeth during kissing? You’re not alone – many people enjoy a little nibble or bite during a make-out session. But if you’re not careful, you can easily scare your partner away with too much teeth action.
The key is to use your teeth sparingly, and only on certain areas. Avoid hard biting your partner’s tongue, as this can be quite painful.
If you’re itching to use your teeth, try nibbling or gently biting her lower lip instead. According to Tantric theory, the lower lip is directly connected to the clitoris. But still, be careful not to crush your teeth against hers.
A gentle nibble of your partner’s ear lobes can be quite pleasurable as well, just avoid biting too hard.
9. The Vacuum Cleaner
One of the biggest mistakes guys make when kissing a girl is getting too aggressive. We’ve all seen it in the movies: the girl gets pulled in close and then the guy starts going to town, sucking on her tongue like he’s a Hoover vacuum.
Wrong. Back off, buddy. She isn’t kissing you to have her mouth vacuumed. You can gently suck on her tongue or lower lip, in fact, we strongly encourage that.
But avoid sucking so hard that she feels her mouth is being drained of all saliva or that her tongue is being pulled out. No one wants to kiss a human suction cup.
10. The Human Plank
Do you want to turn your woman on? If so, you need to pay attention to more than just your mouth. That’s right – your whole body needs to be involved if you want to really get her going.
Think about it – would you be turned on if you were kissing a someone as stiff as a tree? Probably not.
So what can you do? Use your hands! Hug her, touch her, hold her face or chin, caress her hair, squeeze her buttocks. Hold her close so that every part of your body is pressing against hers. And most importantly, kiss her like you mean it!
Remember, you are a warm, affectionate, loving individual – so let your body reflect that. If you do, you’ll have her melting in your arms in no time.
