There are two kinds of guys in this world. The first kind can get just about any woman he wants, and he knows it. The second kind wishes they could be the first kind and wonders perpetually where they’re going wrong. If you’re more like the second kind of guy, it’s time you learned a little more about sexual market value.
Here we’ll go over what you need to know to better understand your own sexual market value. We’ll cover what contributes to a man’s sexual market value and touch on some ways you can give yours a boost, as well.
What Is Sexual Market Value?
It may not be socially acceptable to come right out and say that human beings have assessable value in a similar way to how houses or diamonds do, but that doesn’t make it any less true. Just think about how you likely size up available women you don’t know yet.
The more things a woman has going for her – like good looks, a sense of humor, or a sexy mind – the more of a catch you probably consider her to be. Women view men the same way, whether you want to think so or not. That arbitrary value a person assigns to another person based on their overall sex appeal is their sexual market value.
How to Raise Your Sexual Market Value
Contrary to popular belief, a person’s sexual market value isn’t all about looks. Yes, looks are a part of it, but that’s all they are – just a part. A person’s sexual market value is about the whole picture, especially when it comes to how women think about men. Here are some tips for maximizing yours.
Take care of yourself
This is the part of the equation that is about your looks. But the good news is acing this one is less about what you have and more about what you do with it. You don’t have to be a dead ringer for male model or a movie star for women to like what they see when they look at you.
You do have to take care of yourself and put some effort into things. If you’re not already doing it, it’s time to start hitting the gym and working out. Take care of your skin, hair, and – if you have it – facial hair. Dress well and make good hygiene a top priority, as well.
Work on your confidence
If you’ve ever been positively stopped in your tracks by a woman whose confidence is absolutely through the roof, then you already know that confidence is one of the sexiest qualities a person can have going for them. It’s also a trait that pretty much everyone finds attractive, so it’s a must if you’re serious about raising your sexual market value.
Just make sure you don’t confuse confidence with cockiness. Yes, women love a man who can own a room from the minute he walks into it and who isn’t afraid to say what he means. But a huge part of confidence that most men miss is being secure enough in yourself to let your softer, more vulnerable side show, too. Master that balance, and you’ll have women all over you.
Cultivate easy, casual charm
Although awkwardness can be attractive in small doses and certain situations, it’s to every man’s benefit to learn to be charming. It’s actually a lot easier than you think and has nothing to do with memorizing cheesy pick-up lines in an attempt to trick women into taking note of you. (In fact, most women find that to be the opposite of charming.)
Flirt with women in a low-key way and pay them compliments. Don’t be afraid to tease them a little bit and show them how fun you are to be around. But do it in a way that’s sincere and uniquely you. Don’t put on an act or pretend to be someone you’re not because you think you’ll get better results. Most desirable women can spot a fake a mile away.
Just as there’s no use pretending looks don’t matter, there’s no point in pretending money doesn’t, either. Even if she’s not looking for anything long-term, no woman wants to date a broke man with no goals or sense of direction in life.
You don’t necessarily need to be a millionaire, but you do need to be gainfully employed, take your finances seriously, and care about your future. That can mean climbing the ladder at a traditional job or planning on going into business for yourself. But it needs to be something if you want, to be seen as a sexually valuable man.
The more assets like the above you have going for you, the more likely you are to be seen as a sexually valuable man by the women you’re interested in. So, work on becoming as many of them as possible.