It’s something everyone wants, especially when they’re into hook-up culture – to be a sexual dynamo in the sack. Everyone wants to know what it’s like to blow the other person’s mind as a rule, because that’s a huge part of enjoying it. Everyone wants to feel like their sex life is so good, there’s zero room for improvement as well.
Thankfully, it’s easier to achieve than you might think. The following are just a few tips to keep in mind if you’re serious about leading the ultimate sex life and having the best sex possible as often as possible.
Cultivate confidence like it’s your job.
Although some things are a matter of taste when it comes to what’s sexy, there’s one thing that pretty much everybody finds irresistible – confidence. Someone who oozes confidence in everything they do is positively magnetic. Confidence isn’t about being a perfect ten in the looks department though. It’s about being genuinely comfortable in one’s skin.
Confidence makes you better in bed as well. Confident people know how to let go and be present in the moment. They’re also not afraid to try new things because they understand that sex doesn’t have to play out like a scene in some steamy movie every time to be good.
Explore your sexuality in its entirety.
Now is an insanely good time to be a sexually curious being who loves to get down and dirty. People are increasingly comfortable talking about sex and being sexually expressive in a variety of different ways. They’re thinking outside the box when it comes to what healthy relationships look like and defining sexual satisfaction for themselves.
One of the most effective ways you can get more out of sex is to go out of your way to get to know yourself sexually. What do you like to fantasize about? What gets you off when you’re in the mood to watch some porn or read erotica? You don’t necessarily have to realize every fantasy you have, but how often do you go out of your way to try something specific that gets your blood rushing?
Help your partners explore their fantasies as well.
Exploring your sexual limits to the fullest is only part of the equation when it comes to having amazing sex as a rule. Being open to making the other person’s fantasies come true can be a seriously thrilling experience as well. Great sex is never one-sided and even the freakiest, sexiest Casanovas out there get that.
Encourage your partners to tell you what turns them on and be open to trying things they’re into. Make sure you get yours but focus just as intently on making sure they have a good time too. Once you have a clear idea of what you do and don’t like when you’re in bed with someone else, play the field a little and focus on finding partners whose desires mesh well with yours so you can explore and experiment together.
Be genuine and real.
When it comes to sex, realness is the key to a genuinely satisfying good time. Yes, you should indulge your fantasies, enjoy role play if you’re into it, and find ways to make sex feel positively transcendent whenever possible. However, you should approach everything you do from an honest, genuine place.
Being willing to push your boundaries and try new things to please a partner is great, but you shouldn’t ever do anything that truly doesn’t turn you on. If you try something new and you don’t like it enough to do it again, be honest about it. If something your partner is doing isn’t getting it done for you, ask them to shift gears so they can please you better. If you’re chasing an orgasm and you realize it’s just not going to happen tonight, don’t fake it. Sexual dynamos don’t fake it, period.
Treat your partners (and yourself) with respect.
Haven’t you heard? Respect is seriously sexy. It’s also a vitally important part of being sexually responsible these days. Anything goes in the bedroom so long as you have the full consent of anyone involved. Respect your partners both in and out of the bedroom. Understand that no means no, even if the answer might have been yes another time. Make it a point to be both a good guest and a good host when it comes to hookups.
Be honest with your partners about what you’re looking for by having sex with them as well. There are enough people out there who are into hooking up for its own sake that you don’t have to pretend you’re looking for a relationship if you’re not. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing anything you’re not comfortable with either. Great sex always feels good, both inside and out. Never forget that!