Why Every Guy Should Date Someone Older At least Once in His Life

Whether you’re open to a relationship should the right person present himself or are really just having fun playing the field right now, don’t make the mistake of thinking only the young studs have what it takes to show you a good time. There are actually lots of reasons every younger gay guy should consider trying an older guy on for size at least once over the course of his dating life. The following are just a few of the most noteworthy.

Older men are smoking hot.

Whether you’re talking about a silver fox who’s twice your age or a hottie who’s only a little bit older than you are, it’s impossible to deny the fact that there’s just something about an older man. Older men have had a chance to fully grow into their looks, so you’re seeing them at the peak of their physical deliciousness. They’re generally wiser, more worldly, smarter, and more distinguished as well. What younger gay guy wouldn’t want a piece of that?

Older men have a different take on being gay.

Being out, proud, and comfortable with the entire experience of being gay is actually kind of new in the grand scheme of things. As a younger gay guy, you most definitely understand what it’s like to slowly come to terms with who you are and come out to family or friends who may not be as accepting as you’d like. However, older gays likely had to do this with a lot less support from society at large. Getting to know someone with a completely different perspective on the gay experience can be a really enriching experience.

You can kiss the drama good-bye.

If you’re still in your 20’s, then you hardly need to be told that being young isn’t always a bowl of cherries. You’re probably still learning who you are and finding your place in the world in many ways, both as a gay man and as a person. Don’t even get us started on the drama that so often comes along with dating other guys who are still in the same boat you are. There’s none of that hassle when you’re seeing an older guy. He’s already made it through the process, so he knows who he is and understands how to live his life above all that noise.

He can rock your world in bed.

It’s true what they say about practice. It really does make perfect and not just when it comes to life skills either. An older guy who’s been around the block a time or two has had plenty of time to become a seriously smooth operator between the sheets. He knows all the sweet moves and can definitely teach you a thing or two you didn’t know. He’s completely mastered the art of pleasing a partner, asking for what he wants, and going the distance when it comes to sex as well. In other words, if you’re never dated an older guy, you could well be missing out on the best gay sex you’ve ever had.

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He can give you life advice that’s actually good.

Nothing against your usual circle of buddies, of course, but friends your own age can really only help you so much when it comes to giving you advice that actually works. An older guy, on the other hand, can treat you to an entirely new perspective when it comes to lots of things. Looking for some career advice that doesn’t come from one of your parents? He’s had his share of jobs, bosses, and career changes over the years and totally has you covered. Facing a major life milestone and aren’t sure how to deal? Your older guy has probably been there and can help you make it through in one piece as well.

Older men aren’t constantly glued to their phones.

If your older gay men hottie is like most guys his age, he’s actually struck a really good balance between real life and digital life. Sure, he likes to scroll through Instagram once in a while and score a sweet hookup on Grindr every so often, but he’s probably not a slave to his smartphone to the same extent your friends are. That means he actually knows how and when to give the drama of e-life a rest. He most certainly appreciates the value of real, face-to-face connection – something that can be seriously refreshing in this day and age.

Everyone can benefit from a refreshing change of pace once in a while when it comes to their dating life, and you’re definitely no different. The next time you’re totally done with the same old guys and the same tired dramas, consider changing things up by giving an older guy a try. You’re sure to be glad you did.

Rob West

Rob West

I worked with Matt to build several hookup apps for gay men, including Guyhop.

I've been in the scene for several years now. Eternally single until I find "him".

My background is in marketing and psychology, which gives me a unique perspective on the LGBTQ dating and hookup scene.