Some women enjoy the sensation of squirting during orgasm, as it can be a very powerful and arousing experience. While it doesn’t happen every time, some women find that they are able to expel fluids during orgasm, which can be a very exciting and satisfying experience.
Lisa Murdock, a certified sex therapist, says:
“While it was never considered a ‘taboo’ sex act, I think most women in the past were simply embarrassed by the idea of it, which in itself can psychologically reduce the likelihood of her ejaculating.”
The act of female ejaculation, commonly known as “squirting,” has been a subject of debate among healthcare professionals, researchers, and regular people for years. While it has become a more accepted sex act in the last decade, there is still a lot of confusion about how it works and what it looks like.
So before we get to our step by step guide on making her squirt, let’s clear some things up.
Can Every Woman Squirt?
There’s no one answer to this question because every woman is different. Some women can squirt and some women can’t. And there isn’t necessarily any rhyme or reason to it. It’s just the way some women’s bodies are built.
Some other factors include:
- The woman’s age: Younger women are more likely to be able to squirt than older women. This is because as we get older, our bodies change and sometimes don’t work as well as they used to.
- The woman’s level of arousal: The more aroused a woman is, the more likely she is to squirt. This is because when a woman is aroused, her body is more relaxed and her muscles are less tight.
- The woman’s hydration level: If a woman is well-hydrated, she is more likely to squirt. This is because when a woman is dehydrated, her body is more tense and her muscles are more tight.
- The skill of her lover: If a woman’s lover is skilled and knows how to stimulate her G-spot, she is more likely to squirt. This is because the G-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, and it is often most easily stimulated with a finger or two.
- Medication: Certain medications can affect a woman’s ability to squirt. These include:
- Antihistamines: These can dry out the vagina and make it difficult to squirt.
- Birth control pills: These can also increase a woman’s vaginal dryness.
- Tricyclic antidepressants: These can interfere with a woman’s orgasmic response.
So, can all women squirt? Perhaps! But it really depends on the circumstances and timing.
The Science of Squirting
Some guys might be masters at getting their girl to squirt while many guys may have achieved it by total accident. Either way, if you don’t have a good understanding of the physical causes that stimulate this response, it can be difficult to help a woman reach the “Holy shit, I squirted!” result repeatedly. So here goes.
Like men, women can expel fluid during climax. Squirting occurs when a woman’s body expels fluid during sexual arousal or orgasm. This fluid is often released through the urethra, and is typically clear and odorless.
When a woman is aroused, her body produces increased levels of the hormone oxytocin. This hormone plays a role in promoting bonding and attachment, and is also involved in the contraction of the uterus during childbirth.
Oxytocin levels continue to rise during climax, and it is this surge that is thought to trigger the release of the fluid.
The fluid itself is produced by the Skene’s glands. These glands are often referred to as the female prostate, as they produce many of the same chemicals as the male prostate.
When the Skene’s glands are stimulated, they release this fluid into the urethra, where it is then expelled from the body.
No, It’s Not Pee
There’s a lot of myths and misinformation out there about female squirting, so let’s set the record straight: squirting is not pee.
It’s actually a totally separate bodily function that occurs when a woman is sufficiently aroused. When a woman is aroused, her uterus and ovaries lift up and the G-spot becomes engorged with blood. When this happens, the Skene’s gland fills with fluid and expands.
The Skene’s gland is located on the upper wall of the vagina, just below the urethra. When the Skene’s gland is stimulated, it can release this fluid through the urethra. This is what we know as “squirting.”
Why is this important to know? Because a lot of women think it is pee, which they either find gross or embarrassing. So rather than allow themselves to experience this powerful form of orgasm, they hold back.
How to Make a Girl Squirt
Follow the simple steps below and be ready to get soaked…and sweaty! Making a girl squirt can be a lot of “work”. And many times a woman’s first squirting experience can be extremely intense and extra wet.
Get ready for it
The first and most important step in preparing for a successful squirting experience is making sure you and your partner are on the same page about it. This means having an honest conversation about their comfort levels and assure them you feel fine about getting a little wet!
“I think the biggest mistake people make is that they don’t talk about it beforehand,” says Murdock. “You need to be open with your partner about what you want to do, and you need to be on the same page about it. For the uninitiated, this can be a surprising and sometimes embarrassing event.”
A few other things you can do beforehand:
- Drink lots of water
- Get some towels ready
- Have a bottle of lube close at hand
- Lookup some sex positions that are better than others in making a woman squirt
Arousal is Everything
According to Murdock, the key to making a woman squirt is arousal. “If she’s not fully aroused, it’s not going to happen,” she says.
Squirting is essentially an involuntary reflex that occurs when the right buttons are pushed during sex.
So how do you know if she’s aroused enough? “A good way to gauge her level of arousal is to pay attention to her breathing,” says Murdock. “If it’s shallow and fast, she’s likely close to orgasm. If it’s deep and slow, she still has a ways to go.”
Another tell-tale sign is the appearance of her inner labia. “As blood flow increases to the area, the inner lips will start to swell and turn a deeper red color,” says Murdock. “This is similar to what happens with a man’s erection.”
And another surefire way to tell is by how wet she is down below. “If her lubrication is dripping or even puddling on the sheets, she’s definitely aroused,” says Murdock.
Start with lots of foreplay (and I mean LOTS)
One of the most important things to remember when trying to make a girl squirt is that it takes time. “You need to build up to it,” says Murdock. “That means starting with lots of foreplay, kissing, touching, and anything else that gets her aroused.”
And once you get started, don’t rush things. “Take your time, go slowly, and experiment with different techniques,” Murdock advises. “There is no one right way to do it.”
The most important thing to remember is that every woman is different, so what works for one might not work for another.
The key is to experiment and find what works for you and your partner. With a little patience, you’re sure to find the perfect formula for a mind-blowing squirting experience.
It’s All About the G-Spot
Oh the mysterious g-spot. Few things have held men’s fascination quite like this little erogenous zone. And even today, with all the knowledge at our finger tips, it’s still proven to be one of the most elusive areas to find and stimulate.
The G-spot is the key to unlocking the floodgates of female ejaculation. The G-spot is a small, spongy area located on the front wall of the vagina, about two to three inches up from the vaginal opening. When aroused, the G-spot becomes engorged with blood and can feel slightly rougher than the surrounding tissue.
Some women report feeling the urge to urinate when their G-spot is first stimulated. This is because the G-spot is located near the urethra, the opening through which urine is released. Don’t worry—this is perfectly normal and is actually a sign that you’re doing it right!
Use a Sex Toy
If you’re looking to add some extra stimulation during sex, using a sex toy or two can do the trick. Clitoral vibrators are a good option to start with.
“I recommend using a clitoral vibrator in conjunction with penetration for best results,” Murdock says. “Start with the vibrator on the low setting and move it around the clitoris in a circular or side-to-side motion. As she becomes more aroused, you can increase the intensity of the vibration.”
Another good option is a G-spot vibrator, which can help provide targeted stimulation to the G-spot.
“To use a G-spot vibrator, insert it into the vagina with the curved side up and press it against the front wall of the vagina,” Murdock says. “You may need to experiment with different angles and pressure to find what feels best. As with the clitoral vibrator, start on a low setting and increase the intensity as she becomes more aroused.”
With any type of stimulation, it’s important to communicate with your partner about what feels good.
Fingers Work Too
One of the most common questions I get is whether or not fingers can help a woman squirt. The answer is yes!
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need a penis to make a woman squirt. In fact, most sex experts will tell you that the best way to make a woman squirt is with your fingers.
“Fingers can absolutely help a woman squirt,” Murdock says. “The G-spot is located about two to three inches inside the vagina on the front wall. It’s typically easiest to reach with one or two fingers.”
To find it, insert a lubricated, well-rounded finger or two into the vagina and press upward, toward the bellybutton. The angle of your fingers is important here—you want them to be pointing toward your back, not up toward the ceiling.
Once you’ve located the G-spot, you can begin stimulating it by making a “come hither” motion with your fingers.
Lube Can Help
Another common question Murdock gets from women is whether or not they should use lube to help them squirt. The answer is a resounding yes!
“Lube always makes sex better, but it’s especially helpful when trying to squirt. The extra moisture can help the G-spot swell and become more responsive to stimulation,” Murdock explains.
Not all lubes are created equal, though. Murdock recommends using a water-based lube like Sliquid Sassy or gold old fashioned KY Jelly. These are safe to use with all types of sex toys and it won’t irritate the sensitive skin around the vulva.
The number one rule for making a girl squirt is to be patient. This is not something that can be rushed. It takes time, experimentation, and a lot of communication.
“The key is to have patience and to experiment with different techniques until you find something that works,” Murdock says. “There is no one right way to make someone squirt.”
And if it doesn’t happen, don’t sweat it. “Remember, for one reason or another, not all women can squirt, and that’s perfectly normal,” Murdock says. “The important thing is to focus on enjoying the process and not to put too much pressure on yourself or your partner.”