6 Important Ground Rules for Those New to Casual Sex

Ground Rules for Casual Sex

Even the smoothest Casanova you know was new to hookup culture at one time or another, so don’t worry. No matter how new you are to casual sex yourself, it’s easy enough to get the hang of things if you know the basics as far as what works. The following ground rules can help you find your groove when it comes to hooking up, as well as avoid some of the most common pitfalls newbies face.

1.      Make Sure You’re Ready

Like anything else worth doing in life, there are good reasons and bad reasons to have casual sex. Bad ones include trying to prove to yourself or your social circle that you’re over your last relationship when you’re totally not. This isn’t the kind of thing you should do because “everyone else is doing it” either, especially if you know you’re a relationship person deep down. However, if you’re going casual because you know it’s a better fit for who you are, either right now or in general, then more power to you!

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If Your Hookup App Doesn’t Meet These Standards, It’s Time to Switch Things Up

Time to Switch Your Hookup App

Hooking up is just like anything else worth doing these days in that there are plenty of apps out there that can help you do it better, more often, and more effectively. Don’t make the mistake of assuming that if you’ve used one, you’ve used them all though. Some of the best options out there bring things to the table that can really help you take your game up a notch or two.

For instance, Mixxxer is one hookup interface that is really changing the way casual sex lovers go about finding new hookup partners by bringing a lot of exclusive features to the table. That said, if your hookup method of choice doesn’t do all the following, it might be time to try the Mixxxer life on for size. How does your favorite app measure up?

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Sexual Chemistry 101: How to Detect It Early and What to Do About It

A very sexy looking couple

Whether you’re only interested in hooking up right now or are ultimately looking for something more serious, sexual chemistry is an absolute must. It can be hard to explain and even harder to identify in the first place though, especially when dealing with someone you’ve only just met.

Here we’ll go over everything you need to know about sexual chemistry if you’re serious about making better connections, having better sex, and just plain getting more out of the dating process. We’ll cover some surefire ways to identify potential sexual chemistry even if you’ve only just met someone. We’ll help you figure out what to do about it as well.  Continue reading…

9 Surprising Benefits of Having Casual Sex

Couple having casual sex on floor

Casual sex is the type of thing that gets a bad rap in certain circles, but it really shouldn’t. No, it’s definitely not right for everyone, but for some people it’s actually many times more beneficial than being in a monogamous relationship. Here we’ll take a closer look at some of the many ways indulging your interest in casual sex is actually an excellent idea for the right type of person, the better to help you determine whether or not it’s right for you.

  1. It’s really empowering from a sexual standpoint.

If you’re like most people, you’ve probably had certain ideas about sex drilled into your head from the time you were really young. To be more specific, you were probably taught that having sex is and should be something that happens only within the context of a committed relationship. To choose to do otherwise is “dirty”, “wrong”, and “immoral”.

For someone that was raised on such notions, asserting and acting on your true desires in regards to sex can be incredibly liberating. This is especially the case for women who tend to grow up with even more sexually limiting stereotypes than men do. Defying a widespread stereotype and refusing to let it dictate your life for you quite simply feels good and is well worth trying. It shows others that it’s OK to live their own truth as well.

  1. It can help you get over your inhibitions.

The beginning stage of a new relationship is definitely an exciting time. However, it also tends to be a time of anxiety, worry, and apprehension. Since we’re focused on making sure the connection lasts, even the most confident among us is usually hyper-concerned with wanting that other person to like us and think well of us. Unfortunately that can mean we aren’t necessarily as honest and open about things like fetishes or fantasies as we might be later on.

When you take the commitment out of the equation, there’s not as much at stake emotionally. You’re free to be present right there in the moment and focus on having the most satisfying sex possible. Most people are less inhibited as a result and feel more comfortable asking for what they really want in bed. Continue reading…