5 Signs You’re Not Cut Out for Monogamy

Not Cut Out for Monogamy

Monogamous relationships can be wonderful, but they’re not necessarily for everyone. Plus, people go through many changes throughout their lifetimes. Monogamy may be a perfect fit for a given person when they’re younger, but not later on (or vice versa). It’s natural, normal, and healthy to reevaluate once in a while and make sure your lifestyle choices are still in line with your actual values.

If something just hasn’t felt right with your love life lately, it could be a sign that it’s time to try something different. The following are just a few signs that monogamy may not be the right fit for you at this point in your life. Do they sound familiar?

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Polyamory 101: What Is It and Is It Right for You?

Is Polyamory Right for You?

These days it can feel like anything goes when it comes to love, and you wouldn’t be too far wrong in thinking so. The more comfortable people become with their sexuality and the more they question the status quo, the more open they become to doing things differently than their friends do, or than their parents did before them.

Polyamory is one increasingly popular approach to dating, sex, and relationships. However, while many people are intrigued, they don’t necessarily know exactly what it is. So, what is polyamory? How can you know whether a polyamorous lifestyle is right for you and what would it mean for your sex life?

Polyamory: What It Is and What It Isn’t

Just as every monogamous person has their approach to relationships and sex, so does every polyamorous person. That said, no two are going to define polyamory the same way. However, the basic principles are going to remain the same. Generally speaking, polyamory is defined as having sexual, romantic, or otherwise intimate relationships simultaneously with multiple partners.

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A First-Timer’s Guide to Swinging: What to Know and Where to Start

A First-Timer’s Guide to Swinging

If you’ve ever thought the idea of getting down and dirty with another couple sounded like the hottest thing ever, you’re not alone. With general society becoming increasingly accepting of alternative approaches to relationships and sex, couples aren’t stopping at fantasizing anymore when it comes to swinging. They’re actually experiencing the swinger’s lifestyle for themselves, and you can too.

However, knowing you’re ready to go from dreaming about swinging to trying it is easy. Figuring out where to start is another challenge entirely. Here’s a closer look at what you need to know to plan, arrange, and have an experience that’s everything you want it to be.

Why Are You Interested in Swinging?

Maybe you and your partner have already answered this question for yourselves. If not though, it’s important to do so before you start making concrete plans, because there are both good and bad reasons for wanting to swing. If this is something you think will fix a relationship that’s going sour or it’s something only one of you wants to try, swinging isn’t for you.

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5 Types of People That Are Perfect for the Mixxxer Experience

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If you love getting laid on your own terms and no one else’s, then it goes without saying that it’s an amazing time to be alive. Increasingly open social views on sex combined with the convenience of modern technology have made it easier than ever to find exactly the right situation for you, whether that’s a forever relationship with a soulmate or just someone fun to share a one-night delight with. However, not all platforms are created equally.

Mixxxer is more than just another platform for meeting new people and potentially hooking up. It’s actually a mobile sex finder that completely changes the game when it comes to getting laid, and it’s about time! The following types of people in particular would likely find Mixxxer especially refreshing.

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8 Common Myths About Open Relationships You Probably Believe

1 girls with 2 sexy guys

As a concept, who wouldn’t think being in an open relationship sounds like a blast? You get the security and steady companionship you love about traditional relationships without having to sacrifice your sexual freedom in the process. In many ways, it sounds like the ultimate way to have your cake and eat it too. However, just as strict monogamy isn’t right for everyone, neither are open relationships.

The fact remains that we’re still living in a society that places a very high value on monogamy and traditional connections. The idea of entering into an open relationship can feel a little bit strange for that reason. There’s also still quite a lot of misinformation floating around out there, making it even more difficult to determine whether or not an open relationship is the right choice for you. The following are just a few of the most common and most persistent myths. How many of these do you believe?

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10 Tips for Coping with a Sexless Marriage

Frustrated couple in bed

While there’s definitely more to a marriage than sex, it’s still incredibly difficult to sustain a happy, healthy one without it. Whether it’s temporary or permanent, a lack of sexual intimacy is mentally, physically, and emotionally hard on both parties in any committed relationship. Over time, it can even cause a couple to grow apart to the point where a split seems inevitable. But how much sex is “enough” anyway? Should you and your partner be having more?

According to The Wall Street Journal, the average sex therapist would consider a given marriage “sexless” if the couple has sex fewer than 10 times per year. If that sounds like you and your spouse, you’ll want to address the problem sooner rather than later, especially if either of you isn’t feeling satisfied in that arena. The following tips can help you cope as you work toward turning your marriage around. Continue reading…

10 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Opening Up Your Relationship

Threesome in a jacuzzi

Even here in 2018, it goes without saying that open relationships aren’t right for everyone. However, it’s nearly impossible to ignore the kudos they get from those that have found a way to make things work for them. Open relationships can be scary if you’re new to the game, but with a little understanding and finesse, there’s really no reason why you can’t strike the right balance.

But how do you know whether going the open route is really the correct option for you and your partner? Even more importantly, how can you be properly prepared for the challenges and obstacles pretty much every couple faces while making the transition from closed to open? Sitting down with your partner and asking yourselves the following questions during the decision making process can help.

  1. “Why are we really considering this?”

For most people, the subject of opening up a relationship that is currently closed and monogamous doesn’t just come up at random and chances are that’s the case for you too. Start by figuring out why you feel the need to consider this in the first place. Then determine why you’re considering this now.

Are you in a sexual rut and looking to spice things up? Maybe your current partner has been your only partner for a long time and you want a chance to experience what else is out there these days. Yes, opening up a relationship can help breathe new life into things if your sex life has gotten stale, but so can other solutions such as role playing or kink. Continue reading…

Life After Craigslist: How Mixxxer Can Get Your Sex Life Back on Track

End of craigslist personals

While Craigslist is still a great place to go if you’re looking for a good deal on a used sofa or need a room for rent pronto, the days of using it find easy, no-strings-attached sex are unfortunately over with. This past March, the popular website deactivated its popular “personals” section for good after many years of activity. The change came about as a result of Congress passing the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act.

Although FOSTA was primarily meant to crack down on any possible online sex trafficking of children, open online interfaces like Craigslist were affected nevertheless. According to a statement from the Craigslist team, the shutdown was due to a need to protect Craigslist from any possible liability should the personals section ever be misused in any way. In other words, if Craigslist was your sole means of hooking up with other local casual sex lovers, you’re officially out of luck.

Thankfully you don’t have to give up on enjoying easy access to the casual encounters you’ve come to love altogether though. You just need a viable go-to alterative and Mixxxer is one of the absolute best. Here we’ll go over how Mixxxer can help you get your sexual groove back. Continue reading…

10 Tips for Making Your Open Marriage Work

Threesome in bed

Whether you’re already in an open marriage or simply thinking it might be a good fit for you at some point in the future, it’s not hard to understand why you’d be interested in one. It’s a common misconception that non-monogamous people don’t care about or crave the commitment and security marriage can bring to a person’s life. Many of them do and an open marriage represents the best of both worlds – lifelong love and commitment that still allows them the sexual freedom they need in order to be happy and fulfilled.

However, knowing an open marriage is the right fit for you is one thing. Making sure yours is healthy, happy, and mutually satisfying is another. Open marriages require just as much work, compromise, and communication as traditional closed marriages do – maybe even more in some areas. The following are a few strategies for making sure yours is as strong as can be.

  1. Make sure it’s right for both of you.

Open marriages only work when both people are equally interested in being in one. They don’t work in situations where one person is pushing for it while the other is simply going along to get along. They run into trouble when both parties are technically interested, but one is a lot more enthusiastic about it than the other as well.

It’s all too easy for the person that’s less interested to become conflicted or feel resentful, especially over time. If that’s the case for your spouse, don’t push or pressure in the hopes that they’ll eventually see things your way. Compromise by looking into alternative ways to spice up your sex life instead. Continue reading…

9 Signs Monogamy Might Not Be Right for You

One man and 2 girls in underwear

There are certain ideas pretty much everyone grows up believing in when it comes to romantic relationships. Everything from the movies we watch, to the music we listen to, to the values our parents work hard to instill in us idealizes two people “together forever” as the best and only choice… but what if that doesn’t work for everyone? More importantly, what if it doesn’t work for you?

Despite what polite society would still have us all believe, monogamy isn’t right for everyone and that’s perfectly OK. Alternative choices like polyamory, open relationships, and casual sex-focused lifestyles are becoming increasingly common as more and more people figure this out. Here we’ll go over a few telltale signs that one of those choices might actually be  a much better fit for you than monogamy. Do any of the following statements sound familiar? Continue reading…