Whether you’re already in an open marriage or simply thinking it might be a good fit for you at some point in the future, it’s not hard to understand why you’d be interested in one. It’s a common misconception that non-monogamous people don’t care about or crave the commitment and security marriage can bring to a person’s life. Many of them do and an open marriage represents the best of both worlds – lifelong love and commitment that still allows them the sexual freedom they need in order to be happy and fulfilled.
However, knowing an open marriage is the right fit for you is one thing. Making sure yours is healthy, happy, and mutually satisfying is another. Open marriages require just as much work, compromise, and communication as traditional closed marriages do – maybe even more in some areas. The following are a few strategies for making sure yours is as strong as can be.
- Make sure it’s right for both of you.
Open marriages only work when both people are equally interested in being in one. They don’t work in situations where one person is pushing for it while the other is simply going along to get along. They run into trouble when both parties are technically interested, but one is a lot more enthusiastic about it than the other as well.
It’s all too easy for the person that’s less interested to become conflicted or feel resentful, especially over time. If that’s the case for your spouse, don’t push or pressure in the hopes that they’ll eventually see things your way. Compromise by looking into alternative ways to spice up your sex life instead. Continue reading…