9 Signs Monogamy Might Not Be Right for You

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There are certain ideas pretty much everyone grows up believing in when it comes to romantic relationships. Everything from the movies we watch, to the music we listen to, to the values our parents work hard to instill in us idealizes two people “together forever” as the best and only choice… but what if that doesn’t work for everyone? More importantly, what if it doesn’t work for you?

Despite what polite society would still have us all believe, monogamy isn’t right for everyone and that’s perfectly OK. Alternative choices like polyamory, open relationships, and casual sex-focused lifestyles are becoming increasingly common as more and more people figure this out. Here we’ll go over a few telltale signs that one of those choices might actually be  a much better fit for you than monogamy. Do any of the following statements sound familiar? Continue reading…

Swingers Spotlight: Finding Sex Online With Plenty of Partners

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Online sex dating for “no strings attached” hookups have become really easy these days, in fact, for many casual singles finding one single booty call has become so easy that their interests are expanding and the Swinger lifestyle is making a comeback thanks to a groundswell of open-minded sexy couples interested in becoming intimate with a wider array of partners. If an occasional date with a single mate is no longer enough to thrill you, read on to find out how you can supercharge your sex life by adding more playmates to the mix via polyamorous online communities like Mixxxer.com

What Does Being A Swinger Really Mean In 2015?

Swingers are ‘normal people’ who have a desire for intimacy that goes beyond anything one partner can satisfy on an everyday basis. Many are already part of a loving committed relationship with a primary partner – but are progressive sexy fun camping with mixxxerenough to understand that their lives would both be greatly enriched by removing the traditional limits often imposed on a marriage or other long-term relationship by societal dogma. Just because your grandparents only had sex with each other during a long and beautiful relationship, that doesn’t mean you and your spouse need to follow their example in every conceivable way to achieve the highest level of romantic bliss.

Often there is a social stigma attached to the Swing lifestyle from ‘squares’ that do not participate in these kinds of activities. For that reason, many couples continue to shy away from an open marriage or consensual affairs due to a fear that it might lead to some kind of ostracism from your own local social circles. We believe that is a terrible outcome simply because it involves sacrificing your own happiness and limiting the happiness of your partner solely to ‘live up to’ the nonsensical expectations of others who are not even involved in your lives during your most intimate moments. Most swingers are involved in a relationship of two or more people already and are seeking new partners to play with, but there are also a significant number of singles interested in striking up some involvement with an already attached couple. Single male swingers are often referred to as Stags and single female swingers are frequently described as ‘Polys’ (for their polyamorous approach to sex). Continue reading…

Sharing Your Polyamorous Dating Lifestyle

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There has been so much discussion lately about ‘marriage equality’ and the proper ‘definition of marriage’ but most of the dialogue deals with the broader themes of LGBT equality rather than a real exploration of what marriage really is or should be in the modern world. The entire construct of marriage may be due for a major overhaul, and millions of Americans are already redefining the way their vows are expressed in their own lives. Polyamory (the concept of an open relationship that allows the couple to be intimate with others) is gaining popularity quickly, but many men and women are still having a hard time finding the right path toward opening up their own relationships. Here are some ideas worth considering:

The Awkward Conversation Is Actually Pretty Easy
Too often, even in a great relationship, people shy away from saying what they really believe in order to spare the emotions of their spouse. In fact that approach may serve to put off an awkward conversation, but it doesn’t make your feelings any less valid and it definitely won’t make your own desires go away. It’s perfectly healthy for you to be in love with someone, to cherish their affection and to also want to engage in physical intimacy with other people as well. For many it’s about more than just looking for sex tonight or the exhilaration from finding hookup sites like craigslist or Mixxxer. It’s more about having a deeper, adventurous and open-minded approach to experiencing life on a grand scale.

Young man whispering something to his attentive friendIf you are in a newer relationship you may have concerns about whether or not your partner will think less of you or be scared away by a discussion of polyamory. If you have been together in a relationship for a long time, it’s normal to be hesitant to bring up the idea of an open relationship because you don’t want to upset the status quo or risk alienating someone you truly love. However, as any marriage expert or advice councilor would tell you, a relationship has to be built on honesty and trust if it is to have any chance of achieving its full potential. Being honest isn’t always easy, and yes it can be awkward at times, but it’s also the only way to breakthrough and become part of the vibrant, loving and exciting relationship you desire.
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