Online Dating for Men 101: How to Stand Out in All the Right Ways

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If you’re a man who’s into online dating, the sheer number of possibilities out there these days can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, there are hundreds of hot, available women out there to choose from. On the other, there are just as many single guys out there looking for the same thing you are. A lot of those guys will be better looking, smarter, or more interesting than you are, so standing out can be a real challenge. Here we’ll go over everything you need to know to get the women you want to not only take a second look at you, but be interested enough to take the next step.

Getting Started in the Right Direction

Before you can get what you want from your online dating scene of choice, you need to truly understand what you’re looking for. If you’re really only interested inCasual sex couple casual relationships or no-strings-attached sex, don’t waste your time on interfaces that are aimed at people looking for something serious (and vice versa).

You’ll also want to set your profile up in a way that makes it crystal clear what you’re doing there. Try to put yourself in the shoes of your ideal woman. What would she likely see as a turn-on or a turn-off in a potential date? Build your profile accordingly.

To Share or Not to Share

You definitely want to make sure your profile accurately represents who you are and what you’re into, but you don’t want to overshare. Even a very interested person’s attention span is going to have its limits. No one is going to read patiently through a novel-length list of interests or a bio section that’s basically a massive wall of text.

Plus, you want to leave a little something to the imagination. Ideally, you want to let a woman know the gist of what you’re about, what you’re like, and what you’re looking for. However, you also want to leave her wanting more. A curious woman is a woman who says “yes” to a date so that she can find out more about the guy in question.

Making Your Photos Count

You already know that pictures matter when it comes to getting noticed on a dating site or a hookup app. However, you also need to know that the photos you think paint you in the best possible light aren’t necessarily also going to be photos women are interested in. In other words, you might want to rethink those fishing pics or all those shots of you posing in front of your car wearing shades.

Man looking in mirrorWomen like photos that clearly show a guy’s face, preferably while smiling and staring directly at the camera. Photos that spark conversation or pique curiosity are also good choices. If you’re using an interface that’s all about hooking up and casual encounters, you can show off some of your other goods as well, but it’s definitely possible to go too far on that front as well. Remember, leave a little something to the imagination. Give her a reason to want to interact with you.

Be Personable

Of course, catching and holding a woman’s attention long enough to get her curious is only half the battle. You’ve got to know what to do next. Originality is a good place to start for sure. Don’t use canned pick-up lines or generic messages to open a conversation. You need to show her you see her as an actual individual, as opposed to just another girl to shoot a message to. (Referring back to something unique you saw on her profile is always a good idea.)

You definitely also want to be straight with her. If she asks you a question, be polite, but definitely give her a genuine answer instead of the one you think she wants to hear. Ask her questions about herself as well. Don’t pretend to be into her if you’re not. You’re both adults. If you’re not interested, just politely say so.

Pay Attention to Boundaries 

Even the most forward women don’t like it when men balk at boundaries and try to push for more than what’s being offered, so always be respectful. Keep in mind that every woman’s different. Even on a hookup app, some women are going to be down to get dirty right away, while others will want to ease into things first.

You will want to keep the end goal in mind though – offline, in-person interaction of whatever type you’re interested in. Take some time to chat a little bit first, but don’t wait too long to ask her out or suggest meeting up. Standing out online is only enough to get your foot in the door. It’s still ultimately up to you to close the deal.

The Morning After: The Right Texts to Send Your Hookup Under Every Circumstance

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So it happened. You hooked up with someone last night. Maybe it was good and maybe it wasn’t, but it was pretty well understood that it was supposed to be a one-night kind of deal. Now what? If you exchanged cell numbers, you might feel like you ought to reach out the next day for the sake of politeness if nothing else, but what do you say?

These days, the communication mode of choice is typically text and with good reason. Texts are low-pressure. They don’t demand the person’s immediate attention the way a phone call does. They’re cool, they’re comfortable, and they’re appropriately casual, so it’s definitely OK  to send one to someone you hooked up with. What you say in the text depends on what you want from that person next, if anything. Continue reading…

How To Make Sure That One-Night Stand Totally Happens

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We all have that one friend who makes hooking up look easy, but – try as we might – we can never seem to score with the same consistency ourselves. So what’s that person’s secret anyway? Believe it or not, charisma and good looks have a lot less to do with it than you might think. It’s actually a lot more likely that they simply have a knack for not only picking potential partners, but knowing what it will take to close the deal. Allow us to elaborate.

What to Look For and Where to Find It

It’s true that awesome connections with potential one-night stands can start just about anywhere, but there’s a reason why most people rely on old standbys like the local clubs or their favorite bar. While not everyone that goes there is necessarily looking for sex, they are there because they want to have a good time and are likely to be open to the idea of mingling a little. Continue reading…

6 Great Places to Meet Smoking Hot Hookup Partners

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In case you still haven’t heard, sex isn’t just a lot of fun. It’s also incredibly good for you, so you have every reason in the world to have it as often as possible. Sex treats your system to a full-body workout and a flood of endorphins, so you’re left feeling like a million bucks both inside and out. Sex is a great way to connect with another person on a one-of-a-kind level as well.

It’s even increasingly socially acceptable to enjoy all the benefits of sex without the need to be in a committed relationship you may not be ready for. However, knowing you like the idea of casual sex is one thing. Finding the right people to hook up with is another matter entirely. Here we’ll go over everything you need to know to meet the best, hottest hookup partners (including where to meet them). Continue reading…

Sexual Chemistry 101: How to Detect It Early and What to Do About It

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Whether you’re only interested in hooking up right now or are ultimately looking for something more serious, sexual chemistry is an absolute must. It can be hard to explain and even harder to identify in the first place though, especially when dealing with someone you’ve only just met.

Here we’ll go over everything you need to know about sexual chemistry if you’re serious about making better connections, having better sex, and just plain getting more out of the dating process. We’ll cover some surefire ways to identify potential sexual chemistry even if you’ve only just met someone. We’ll help you figure out what to do about it as well.  Continue reading…

Hooking Up with a Coworker: Hot Idea or Recipe for Disaster?

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If you’ve ever been employed, chances are you’ve probably also thought about hooking up with a coworker a time or two and it’s not hard to understand why. Most people spend at least half of their waking hours at work every day, so not only do they interact with the same people over and over again, but they wind up getting to know many of them as well as they know anyone they live with.

It’s hardly uncommon to become so close with a favorite coworker that sex seems inevitable under circumstances like that. But is actually crossing that line ever a good idea? Here we’ll go over everything you need to know about getting down and dirty with a coworker including when you should consider it, when you shouldn’t, and how you should handle things if you decide to go for it. Continue reading…

Cybersex 101: What It Is and How to Make Your Cyber Game Hotter

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These days, great online communication skills aren’t just helpful to have. They’re absolutely essential when it comes to many things, dating included. Whether you’ve got a steady partner who loves to sext or you’re a sexy single that likes to hook up over Tinder or Mixxxer once in a while, cybersex is definitely something it pays to be good at. Let’s go over what cybersex actually is, as well as touch on a few essentials guaranteed to keep you on that cyber-hottie’s mind for weeks to come. Continue reading…

10 Tips for Playing Up Your Own Unique Brand of Sexiness

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Knowing you want to be seen as sexy, attractive, and desirable is easy. It’s figuring out how to actually do it that’s hard. After all, no two people are going to find the exact same qualities and features sexy. Plus, we all have at least one friend or acquaintance that gets plenty of sexual attention despite not being conventionally attractive, right?

At the end of the day, the key to being seen as a sexy, desirable person isn’t necessarily about what you have. It’s more about what you do with it. Here we’ll go over how tapping into your own one-of-a-kind brand of sex appeal is the best way to land more dates and get laid a lot more often. We’ll touch on a few suggestions for becoming the best, most desirable version of yourself as well.

  1. Pinpoint your unique assets.

The qualities you think you like most about yourself may not actually be the same ones that draw others to you, so you’ll want to start by figuring out the difference. A good way to do this is to reflect on the people you’ve dated or slept with in the past, especially in regards to the compliments they’ve paid you. Continue reading…

10 Tips for Coping with a Sexless Marriage

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While there’s definitely more to a marriage than sex, it’s still incredibly difficult to sustain a happy, healthy one without it. Whether it’s temporary or permanent, a lack of sexual intimacy is mentally, physically, and emotionally hard on both parties in any committed relationship. Over time, it can even cause a couple to grow apart to the point where a split seems inevitable. But how much sex is “enough” anyway? Should you and your partner be having more?

According to The Wall Street Journal, the average sex therapist would consider a given marriage “sexless” if the couple has sex fewer than 10 times per year. If that sounds like you and your spouse, you’ll want to address the problem sooner rather than later, especially if either of you isn’t feeling satisfied in that arena. The following tips can help you cope as you work toward turning your marriage around. Continue reading…

12 Expert Tips for Having a Stellar Vacation Fling

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Vacations are so wonderful because they have the potential to be whatever you want them to be. They can be relaxing or exhilarating. They can be all about blazing new trails and having the adventure of a lifetime or they can be about unwinding and taking it easy instead. At their best, vacations are all about getting away from it all and being open to new experiences of all types. What better time to try something a little different in the romance department?

Vacations flings are a great way to add a dose of fun and excitement to your time spent away from home, especially if you’ll be flying solo. However, finding the right person for sex and to enjoy one with can be a challenge if you don’t know where to look or get something started. The following tips can help you not only choose the right candidate for a vacation fling, but ensure that the experience is everything you’re looking for (and nothing you’re not) as well. Continue reading…