9 Signs Monogamy Might Not Be Right for You

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There are certain ideas pretty much everyone grows up believing in when it comes to romantic relationships. Everything from the movies we watch, to the music we listen to, to the values our parents work hard to instill in us idealizes two people “together forever” as the best and only choice… but what if that doesn’t work for everyone? More importantly, what if it doesn’t work for you?

Despite what polite society would still have us all believe, monogamy isn’t right for everyone and that’s perfectly OK. Alternative choices like polyamory, open relationships, and casual sex-focused lifestyles are becoming increasingly common as more and more people figure this out. Here we’ll go over a few telltale signs that one of those choices might actually be  a much better fit for you than monogamy. Do any of the following statements sound familiar? Continue reading…

How to Successfully Open Up Your Relationship

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If you’re in a traditional monogamous relationship, it’s not difficult to understand why you might want to try opening things up. Open relationships can be wonderful, healthy ways to experience the variety you crave when it comes to sex without saying good-bye to the companionship and depth you enjoy in your primary relationship. Neither of you ever has to feel like you’re missing out either, which can actually make your relationship stronger in many ways.

However, deciding an open relationship could be amazing for both you and your partner is one thing. Successfully convincing your partner to give it a chance is another. Some people are a lot more open to the idea than others. Here we’ll go over a few tips for bringing up the topic, as well as touch on some ways to help a reluctant partner warm up to the idea. Continue reading…

The Ultimate Guide to Having Great Casual Sex

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It goes without saying that there’s a lot to be said for coming home for the holiday season. You get to touch base with friends you haven’t seen in years and fill up on plenty of excellent home cooking. It hardly hurts that you don’t have to worry about all your usual everyday responsibilities for a while either. Even so, even the best winter break can suddenly seem endless if you’re not also getting laid while you’re away and with good reason.

According to Trojan condoms, there’s about a 60% chance that you’ll have some form of casual sex while you’re home for winter break if you’re also young and single. Combine multiple social sex gatherings where there’ll be alcohol served with good old-fashioned end-of-the-year cheer and you definitely have a recipe for such things. Keep the following tips in mind to make sure you get the absolute most out of any experiences you might decide to pursue. Continue reading…

The Dos and Don’ts of Having a One-Night Stand

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A one-night stand is the type of experience that can either be the best thing ever or a total disaster. The difference between the two depends entirely on how you approach things. Yes, one-night stands are meant to be carefree, spontaneous decisions that break all the rules. However, there’s still something of a method to getting things right – a method that can be learned and eventually mastered with enough practice.

The next time you’re on the verge of having a phenomenal one-night encounter, keep these must-know dos and don’ts in mind. You’ll be a lot more likely to have an experience that’s awesome and satisfying for everyone involved.

  1.  DO give yourself permission to go for it.

Start by giving yourself full permission to go after what you want. Not only there’s nothing wrong with having casual sex, but it actually comes attached to a lot of potential benefits. It helps you manage both depression and anxiety. It can help you build confidence and self-esteem. It’s a great way to get the sexual gratification you crave without entering a committed relationship you might not really want or have time for as well. Continue reading…

9 Signs Casual Dating Is Something You Should Try

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If you’re like a lot of folks, you probably grew up thinking there was only one way to date or to pursue romantic relationships with other people. You met someone you liked and then you dated exclusively, presumably with the intent to eventually get married and remain with that person for the rest of your life. For some folks, that progression of events is ideal – exactly what they hope to get out of the dating experience. For others, it just doesn’t feel like a fit at all.
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Can You Really Find Dates Through Adult Dating Sites?

Adult dating on Mixxxer Once upon a time, mainstream dating sites like Match.com or eHarmony may have been seen as solutions to be skeptical of, but now they’re completely ordinary ways to meet people and roll the dice in search of love. At this point, millions have found lasting love via such avenues and no one really thinks twice about using them. They simply trust that the system is effective and go for it. But what if you’re not interested in “happily ever after” at this exact point in your life? What if you just want to have some fun with cool people and maybe get laid a little more often? Adult dating sites are definitely one way to go, but they’re a lot less mainstream than more traditional options. Do they actually work and if so, what’s the protocol for actually having a good experience? Allow us to provide answers to all of your burning questions. Continue reading…

How to Stay Positive About Dating: Tips to Keep in Mind

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Most of us have something of a love-hate relationship with dating and it’s not hard to see why. On the one hand, meeting new people and allowing yourself to get excited about the possibilities can be a real blast. On the other, dating comes with more than its share of drama as well. It can be especially hard to find other people that actually want the same things you do, especially if you prefer no-strings-attached dating to traditional relationships.

All things considered, it’s understandable if you find it hard to stay positive about dating instead of just throwing in the towel altogether. Here we’ll discuss some ways you can actually stay optimistic about the whole thing and increase your chances of finding the type of connection you’re really looking for. Continue reading…

6 Telltale Signs Your Sex Life Is Going Stale (and What to Do About It)

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Here in 2017, it seems as if people are more open sexually than ever before. People talk freely about once-taboo topics like female sexuality and sex toys of all types. It’s totally acceptable to have an interest in open relationships or casual sex. Books like Fifty Shades of Grey are achieving bestseller status and starting frank conversations all over social media as well. So why are so many of us still falling into sexual ruts and settling for stale, stagnant sex lives?

At the end of the day, sex is just like anything else. It’s totally possible to fall into a routine and get stuck there, especially if you’ve been sleeping with the same person for a long while. Don’t be fooled though. You can still settle into a stale sexual routine even if you’re single and unattached to any one person in particular. Here we’ll go over some of the surest signs that your sex life is going stale and could really use a jump start. We’ll touch on some ways you can give it the jolt it needs as well. Continue reading…

8 Things Men Think Women Lie About on Their Dating Profiles

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There’s definitely a lot to love about online dating, especially if you’re a guy that’s still playing the field. Instead of trying to find the energy to hit the club or the bars after a long work week, you can simply log on and get to know as many new women as you like whenever you have a moment. Plus, you can cut right to the chase online and easily find gorgeous, vivacious women that want the same things you do whether that’s a serious relationship, a friends with benefits connection, or just plain social sex.

There’s only one thing that can throw a wrench in the machine – the possibility that the smoking hot chick who seems too good to be true actually is. And you’re right to be worried about that because statistics show that around 80% of all dating profiles contain at least one lie. So how honest is the average woman on her dating profile? Are free sex sites offering dating services reliable? Are other men worried about the same things you are? How can you tell the difference and lower your own chances of being lied to?

Here we’ll go over the most common things men worry women are lying about. We’ll touch on a few tells you can watch for if you doubt a given person’s honesty at any point as well. Continue reading…

Open Relationships: Should There Be Rules?

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Here in the 21st century, we have quite a few options when it comes to many areas of life. This is no less the case with dating than it is anything else. While traditional dating and relationships aren’t completely a thing of the past, we’re no longer stuck doing things that way if we decide it isn’t right for us.

Open relationships in particular represent the best of both worlds. You can enjoy the closeness and security that committed relationships bring to the table, but you’re also still free to explore other people sexually if you wish. However, there’s definitely a right way and a wrong way to approach such a situation.

While ground rules may seem like they miss the point of being in an open relationship in the first place, this is far from the case. Along with communication, rules help both parties get what they’re looking for out of their relationship with one another. It’s also worth noting that society doesn’t make the rules in this sort of situation; you do! Here we’ll take a closer look at how to set some good ones so that you can keep your open relationship happy, healthy, and fulfilling. Continue reading…